tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post4228422774095906154..comments2023-08-14T16:35:49.756+01:00Comments on Cruella-blog: Sexual imbalanceCruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-22993079865182488772012-01-26T23:53:22.575+00:002012-01-26T23:53:22.575+00:00Neither, but thanks for asking.Neither, but thanks for asking.Cruellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-78452544805357797752012-01-26T23:47:14.880+00:002012-01-26T23:47:14.880+00:00I agree Kate. My place or yours?I agree Kate. My place or yours?The National Consciousnesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14917872722728418643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-14426854420125078272012-01-12T10:10:55.728+00:002012-01-12T10:10:55.728+00:00Ha! I saw her as well on the BBC Three show aimed ...Ha! I saw her as well on the BBC Three show aimed at 16-24 year old about Sex online "what's the Harm?" I think it was called. I didn't watch until the end, but I remember having the same thought about the number of men she'd slept with, ie: so what!? and also remember wondering why it was framed as shocking that most people used online encounters to arrange casual sex... why is it more shocking than sidling up to a stranger in a bar? or perhaps they are just shocked at people being open about their sexual needs!<br />If you do watch it, notice how unchallenging the presenter is to the young man who categorises his 'conquests' as different varieties of 'gash'frecklescorphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01486020222857668100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-1551116449819889652012-01-12T08:46:37.777+00:002012-01-12T08:46:37.777+00:00I too met Jeff and he set out to make his fame bas...I too met Jeff and he set out to make his fame based on his sex and drug addiction.. he is neither funny or talented... but he set out to get famous. Job done.DFRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16326735249224445611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-58790210272983707582012-01-12T08:05:03.779+00:002012-01-12T08:05:03.779+00:00I believe you have missed the angle behind this fi...I believe you have missed the angle behind this film. Becky Nicholson, the person in the short film, expresses her own feeling of disappointment in herself in what she was doing. She states that she started meeting strangers on line 'as a confidence thing' as her self esteem and confidence had been destroyed through 'bullying to the extreme'. <br /><br />Whilst online, the attention extended to her by these strangers boosted her confidence, making her feel attractive. Her self esteem was so low that these boosts to her confidence which lasted only a few days at best became addictive. Following her liaisons with these strangers, Becky admits to feeling 'disgusted with herself' because of her actions.<br /><br />I believe the issue here is not so much the quantity of sexual partners this person has had, as I agree with you that that is each individual's choice and as long as they're careful and not harming anyone, then what issue is it to anyone else, but rather more to do with young people's way of handling their low self esteem.<br /><br />The blame to be placed here really is with the bullies this young woman faced at school and with the predatory strangers online who readily take advantage of the position of people such as Becky without a concern for their welfare or why they are doing what they are doing. <br /><br />This story is a warning that the quest for confidence, improved self esteem and acceptance is not to be found between bed sheets (or in a bottle, using drugs, etc). Becky admits that as she has grown up, she has matured and become more self confident. This exposes another problem:<br />As I went through my teenage years there was no such thing as internet, mobile phones, etc. During these awkward years I too, as teenagers the world over do,felt lonely, occasionally misunderstood, and certainly suffered with low self-esteem. However, remained relatively safe throughout this period with family and friends, and my only contact being my immediate environment, and no chance of exposing myself to any danger should I have thought it a good idea. Today's generation have never known life without internet, mobile phones, that connection to the larger world outside being a given. This too is what the BBC are alerting the younger generation to.<br /><br />Anyway, I've finished my breakfast now and you've made me late for work, so gotta go!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com