tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-82487072024-03-07T06:00:35.557+00:00Cruella-blogFor mailing list, upcoming gigs and links to other work see www.katesmurthwaite.co.uk.Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.comBlogger1123125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-4239291059950150652019-06-17T00:17:00.002+01:002019-06-17T00:17:47.209+01:00WTF happened over the weekend Kate?!Ok I'll tell you.<br />
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So on Friday afternoon I went on Sky News to discuss whether Jo Brand should be allowed to make a joke about throwing battery acid on a hateful politician. Let's not get into that.<br />
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During the interview I mistakenly attributed nasty rape "jokes" to The Brexit Party when in fact they had come from a UKIP candidate, subsequently defended by party leadership. The Brexit Party hates rape jokes and much prefers making and defending homophobic remarks...or something.<br />
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Because of the mistake it is unlikely Sky News will release the clip. Which is fair enough. They have to correct stuff when they can.<br />
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Well people on Twitter were pretty angry and adamant that I should apologise. So I did.<br />
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You will notice my apology has 2200 retweets and 11000 likes. I also have 1500 new followers.<br />
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Then of course a bunch of people were angry that I should use the word "Nazi"...not a word I chose flippantly, a word I chose quite deliberately because the rise of the "mainstream" far right in this country and across the world has terrifying parallels to the rise of, well, the Nazis. And I think it's really important we challenge these things out as soon as we can see what is happening.<br />
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But also I'm a comedian so...<br />
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And then there's the reaction online... Way too much to share in detail. For the last 48hrs my twitter mentions and reactions have been scrolling in faster than I can actually read them so sorry if you said something wonderful and I missed it, but lets have a look at a few samples... (advance warning - it's going to get very very ugly).<br />
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(Wrong sort of "your". Every time.)</div>
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(Actually if anyone has the snap-chat "gender-swap" feature, I look like a "feminised" version of Christopher Eccleston, this is widely known and I'm very happy to resemble that very dashing man.)</div>
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(This within an hour of me sharing the picture above - with a much better joke, now obscured...Also if your dick looks like my nose mate - see a doctor.)</div>
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(Why? Because I want to. How? Very well indeed.)</div>
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(They really seem to think being transgender, or looking androgynous, is a bad thing. Attention: it's not.)</div>
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So that's, erm, gross. On the other hand loads of nice tweets (mostly from people who were immediately barraged with hate, sorry about that). And I'm in the top things discussed on Twitter in the UK over the weekend...<br />
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And of course when you look at the full account it does not get better.<br />
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Makes a direct threat.<br />
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I'm totally fine though, it's not the first time I've had this sort of thing has happened. I'm totally blasé about it these days. Rather than sitting in a damp basement being a dickhead on the internet, I spent the weekend getting laid and going to the fair. Here's a picture of the latter...</div>
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Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-15823882796890339092018-05-31T18:18:00.001+01:002018-05-31T18:18:26.780+01:00If they hand out medals for retaining a sense of humour while being randomly screamed at... ...mine had better be in the post.<br /><br />
<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="270" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/7iwPDF3fuJA" width="480"></iframe>Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-69705030738413297022015-06-05T22:52:00.001+01:002015-06-07T19:29:54.316+01:00My shocking column from The Teacher in full.Prepare to be horrified.<br />
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Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-72270606707478749932015-03-16T00:13:00.000+00:002015-03-16T00:13:06.257+00:00Mick Taylor: A little obituary.<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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It is incredibly sad but also deeply fitting that last week I should have arrived back from a tour of Norway to learn of the death of my former agent Mick Taylor. Tomorrow I am off to his funeral. Without Mick I would never have started touring Scandinavia and met a group of comics who have become some of my closest friends including Tobias Persson, Magnus Betner, Frederick Andersson and Lasse Nilsen.<br />
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I first met Mick when Magnus had decided to tour the UK with his help and the two arrived at Soho Comedy Club where I was MCing. Magnus was impressed with my stagecraft and, never one to move indecisively, Mick had signed me to his Loose Cannons agency within a few weeks.<br />
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I've never met or even heard of an agent as "hands on" as Mick. He thought nothing of driving us to gigs. He spoke to everyone, door staff, promoters, other acts, bar tenders, bouncers and audience members alike. He must have handed out 100 plus business cards most weeks and would end up arranging gigs himself if he thought the space or the bar was right for it.<br />
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One time he drove me to Up The Creek in Greenwich. In the afternoon he had taken dark and often controversial Norwegian act Dag Soras to a corporate booking for a Norwegian company. Dag was still in the back of the car and Mick was waxing lyrical about having enjoyed the show despite it being in a language he didn't speak. "I think it's the rhythm of comedy, it's a very distinct language, you don't have to understand the words to see the craftsmanship... I enjoy Dag's work just as much in Norwegian" he explained.<br />
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I rather dryly replied "Sometimes I actually prefer Dag's work in Norwegian". Mick laughed so hard I had to grab the wheel to stop us veering off the road.<br />
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Well I think that was Mick all over: a huge lover of the whole art of comedy, but often in need of some external steering.<br />
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Here's to you mate!<br />
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<br />Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-36486707431146020142015-02-02T17:49:00.002+00:002015-02-02T17:50:30.259+00:00Goldsmiths and me. The full story. The proof.The media have written a lot about my show at Goldsmith College being cancelled tonight and of course social media is now abuzz with people calling me a liar and claiming I've made the whole thing up. So here's my version. With screenshots to prove it. My apologies for releasing shots of what was obviously intended to be a private conversation, I wanted very much to avoid this but I'm not going to put up with being called a liar repeatedly. I have blurred out identifying details of the representative from Goldsmiths Comedy Society because I know from personal experience how the internet can over-react otherwise.<br />
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I was booked to do a show at Goldsmiths College, in south London. I've performed there many times before. The show was a joint event for the Comedy Society and the Feminist Society - members of which could come for free - and we then agreed that they would put up a ticket page for anyone else - such as local residents who fancied coming. As a way to cover costs or raise a few extra quid.<br />
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The day before the show (Sunday) I was getting a lot of hassle on Twitter because I had dared to suggest that cutting the opening hours of Spearmint Rhino strip club was a good thing. From the get-go I'd started blocking people on Twitter who were bothering me, so I could generally only see half of the conversation that was going on. I did however start to see messages like this one from @LSESUFeminists...<br />
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...I thought it was only fair to let the organisers know that I thought there was a risk of a protest or of people coming along to the show with the specific aim of disrupting it or arguing with me. I think it would be unprofessional not to warn organisers if there was a possibility of disruption.<br />
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It turned out they were already aware of controversy surrounding my performance - which I was not aware of...<br />
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...needless to say I was more bothered by the apparent low ticket sales - I hadn't realised (this would be clarified later) that this referred to tickets bought online, not to members of the Comedy Society and Feminist Society who would be just showing up on the night as they didn't have to pay. So I queried this...<br />
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...and for the benefit of those who have been suggesting that I wanted the show cancelled or that I invented the problem to get out of doing a show, you can also see I've made it abundantly clear I do want to do the show. <br />
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Also note that after the media got hold of the story Goldsmiths Comedy Society responded suggesting the show had been cut due to poor sales. A few points on that:<br />
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1. The show was never set up for tickets to be sold - it was a free event for students from the relevant societies. The tickets sold were extras on top of the expected crowd.<br />
2. They were still expecting 50 people when hey pulled the event.<br />
3. The show has been very popular elsewhere. In Edinburgh we had to cut the show slightly short to allow extra time to get the crowds in and out on weekends. It had all 4 and 5 star reviews. For example: http://one4review.co.uk/2014/08/news-kate-leftie-cock-womble-5/<br />
4. If you're going to pull a show over sales, you could save a lot of effort by just doing that rather than trying to call me a bad person!<br />
5. Wow - isn't it petty and mean to refuse to accept that you screwed up and try instead to damage my professional reputation by undermining me with misleading data like that?<br />
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Then the issue of the sex industry comes up...<br />
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...but I was never sent the "safe space" policy so I can't see what it says. I can't understand how a Student Union can support a whole industry. Do they support the oil and gas industry? The textile industry? That's weird. But it may not be what the policy says - I haven't seen it so I haven't had a chance to agree to it or not.<br />
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..which I get, rather confusing conflicting information though. What do those complaints say? I get a little bit of information...<br />
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...to be clear I don't give a crap who choses to wear a scarf and who doesn't. I have a massive problem with all those countries and communities where women are directly or indirectly forced to wear a burqa or veil of any sort or punished for not doing so. But y'know, I'm a radical extremist right? I'm not really saying no-one's ever complained about me. But we have to assess complaints to see if they're even valid, right? Here's the full version of what I said...<br />
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...I wasn't shown the other complaints - I have asked for them. I do feel bad that one individual has beens stuck in the middle of clearly a lot of conflicting angry voices (including mine). But on the other hand (philosophy mode now, strap in!) that's the responsibility that free speech gives us. People can say things, others can complain, someone needs to assess those complaints and see if they're worth acting on. Obviously I think I should have been allowed to perform. Especially as my show - which is not in any way about the sex industry or the burqa - is about free speech. Actually there is no better time to heckle than halfway through a show about free speech!<br />
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And yes - we probably will put it on somewhere else in London soon. It will be part of the Leicester Comedy Festival and hopefully the Brighton Fringe. I won't post links or I'll be accused of shamelessly using the incident to promote my work. But anyone who had a ticket for Goldsmiths - yes all eight of you!! - can drop me a line and be guest-listed and served free drinks by me personally at an upcoming performance.<br />
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Thank you for all the support.Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-41198883449682450072014-12-09T16:30:00.002+00:002014-12-09T16:30:43.969+00:00Bad Gender Science alertIt's my birthday today and what a gift The Telegraph have sent! Two of my least favourite things wrapped up in one. Bad science being used to justify sexism!<br />
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Apparently, we're told, <a href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/11281213/Men-need-nights-out-with-the-lads-scientists-say.html" target="_blank">men need nights out with the lads</a>. Not someone's opinion or the advice of their in-house agony aunt, no. This is SCIENCE, we're told.<br />
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The subtitle reads "Researchers in Germany found it was good for a man's health to be allowed time to bond with fellow males".<br />
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But read the article and they found nothing of the sort. They found it was good for a male Barbary macaque's health. They add "a type of ape which exhibits remarkably human-like social behaviour" so presumably it spends half the morning nursing a hangover while playing Angry Birds and then writing about how it "really needs to get more organised" on Facebook?<br />
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The tenuousness of the link is made even more apparent when they try to compare men "watching each other's backs" with Barbary macaques picking ticks and fleas off each other. Hmm, alerting your mate to someone looking at him aggressively in the queue for a kebab doesn't strike me as obviously analogous to combing his back hair for him if he can't reach.<br />
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The only reason to assume that what applies to Barbary macaques will also apply to humans would be if humans and macaques shared a common ancestor who also exhibited this behaviour. Not so.<br />
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Humans are much more closely related to bonobos. Do you know what bonobos do to relieve stress? They wank off members of their own family. Really they do. Who wants to write a piece in The Telegraph about the health benefits of familial mutual masturbation? No me either.<br />
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The reality is that the only reason this piece got published at all was because they know perfectly well that guys out there wanting to shirk other commitments and responsibilities and go out drinking will latch onto it. Well sorry, not fooled.<br />
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Look at the all-male groups in most pubs and clubs night after night. Look at the crowd at football matches across the country. Believe me, if all-male socialising was the key to male health you'd all be immortal by now! Instead your life expectancy is considerably shorter than ours.<br />
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I'd bet the exact opposite is true in humans - all male groups are likely to drink more, smoke more, get in more fights, eat more fast food, do more dangerous activities. I'd bet all-male socialising is linked to to poorer health in human men. But no-one's going to publish that in The Telegraph are they?Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-15029982514081267622014-10-29T01:45:00.000+00:002014-10-29T01:45:47.176+00:00Anthony Loewenstein line-by-linePriorities trolling is a special kind of trolling. "Stop moaning about the pay gap, women in Saudi Arabia aren't allowed to vote". I know. The problems are actually related. I can care about more than one issue at a time. What do these dickheads do at weekends? "Is that the Cats Protection League? What about dogs!!!?", "Is that The Asthma Society? You know some people have Motor Neurone Disease."<br />
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For the record if I complain about Saudi Arabian women's rights I am called a racist and told that "things are hardly perfect here, shouldn't you focus on that first?".<br />
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Well apparently feminists - we're all doing it wrong (again). The wrong kind of feminism is helping the wrong people. <a href="http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/oct/28/feminism-lite-is-letting-down-the-women-who-need-it-the-most" target="_blank">'Feminism lite' is letting down the women who need it the most says Anthony Loewenstein</a>. Here's why he's wrong. In excruciating detail.<br />
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<i>"Men are afraid to talk about feminism. If that sounds melodramatic, I’d ask you to count the number of articles written by male writers tackling the big and small issues around gender and women’s equality. You’ll be hard pressed to find a strong selection."</i><br />
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(1) To make this case you'd need to show me all the men who WANTED to write about feminism and were deterred. Maybe men, not women, are to blame for men not writing about feminism.<br />
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(2) The title suggests that this piece is going to be about how feminism needs to focus more on helping women in really tough situations. Now you think we all have to change our behaviour to help make male writers feel better about themselves?<br />
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<i>"This is not acceptable. Men have a stake in gender equality, from promoting fair pay and no-fault divorce laws, all the way to stopping honour killings and sexual violence."</i><br />
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Yes poor men affected by a gender pay gap IN THEIR FAVOUR and honour killings OF WOMEN.<br />
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<i>"We are boyfriends, husbands, fathers or friends, and yet too many of us shy away from these sensitive matters, fearing opprobrium."</i><br />
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Well yeah - if you write stupid things, you might get called out on it. That's free speech dude. Rather different from the rape threats I get on a regular basis I'd say.<br />
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<i>"Too often, men worry they’ll be attacked by women for questioning a consensus position on feminist issues."</i><br />
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So you should be allowed to challenge "consensus positions" on feminism and women shouldn't be allowed to respond? You're no longer writing about feminism dude - you're just sitting on a massive great steaming pile of privilege muttering "must ask my butler to order more privilege".<br />
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<i>"When Australian prime minister Julia Gillard was in power, a common refrain on the left was that she faced appalling attacks on her appearance and marital status."</i><br />
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"A common refrain" must be another term for "an actual fact".<br />
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<i>"Her famous misogyny speech prompted headlines around the world after she accused her opponent, Tony Abbott, of sexism."</i><br />
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Yes sexism, That's what the whole feminism thing is about. Welcome to the party.<br />
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<i>"There is no doubt that Gillard faced obstacles that men rarely have to contemplate, and that many of her ugliest critics have never accepted her legitimacy. Writer Anne Summers uncovered a litany of “vilification and denigration” against Gillard that went well beyond opposing the Labor leader’s policies. Many women applauded Gillard because they knew the daily realities of men ignoring, shaming or humiliating them at home, or at work."</i><br />
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So perhaps women around the world who have experienced similar prejudice and abuse felt pleased that she had called it out.<br />
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<i>"And yet, during this entire period I found the debate depressingly staid."</i><br />
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What debate? The debate about whether sexism is ok? That's not a debate.<br />
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<i>"The forums available to discuss these issues were limited, leaving (mostly female) feminists to defend Gillard from the trolls who mocked her ideas, clothes and hair." </i><br />
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Perhaps you could send us the list of pitches you made to papers and journals asking for the opportunity to highlight the sexism she had experienced? Who stopped you adding your voice to this issue?<br />
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<i>"My argument here isn’t that men should have been central in the debate – our role as privileged players in society has lasted far too long – but that mainstream feminism seemed only to feel aggrieved, and little else."</i><br />
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What the fuck else are we supposed to feel about RAMPANT SEXISM? Quizzical? Bemused? Aroused?<br />
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<i>"But here’s the catch: Gillard ran a government that routinely enacted policies that harmed women, including placing asylum seekers in privatised immigration detention, backing warlords in Afghanistan’s Oruzgan province, supporting the Israeli occupation of Palestine, cutting benefits for single mothers and opposing gay marriage."</i><br />
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And that doesn't make it ok for her to be criticised for her appearance.<br />
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More importantly - if you care so much about these issues - why don't YOU write about them? Instead of telling feminists what they should be writing about.<br />
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It seems like you live in this fantasy world where feminists are all paid a fortune to "sort out" gender inequality whatever way we think best and we have a big feminism staff meeting every morning to decide how to spend the money. That's not how it works. Lots of people write about trolling because they have experienced it. If we didn't get trolled so much we might have the personal resources to write more about other issues.<br />
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And it comes down to what will the media publish. In my experience as a woman it is really hard to sell articles that aren't related to a personal experience I've had. Men are much more easily accepted as "experts" on varied subjects. For instance you managed to sell this piece even though you clearly haven't even thought it through.<br />
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<i>"There are countless other examples, yet they remained mostly dismissed by the same women (and men) who lavished support on Gillard for her “feminist ideals”."</i><br />
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Who has been dismissing these issues? The mainstream media. Which is not run by feminists. Far from it. At last weekend's Feminism In London conference I never heard Gillard's name mentioned - I did see a workshop on Turkish women's rights, a panel on issues around motherhood and panels on things like the harms of prostitution and women in the mental health system. I didn't see you there Anthony.<br />
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<i>"The love-fest continued in September last year when Summers interviewed Gillard in an Oprah-style format, with sell-out crowds lapping it up. This was, unquestioningly, a moment of public catharsis. Of course, there is nothing wrong with praising Australia’s first female prime minister for her achievements – but at least be honest, and admit that a few principled speeches on her part don’t compensate for years of abandoning the very gender you claimed to be helping."</i><br />
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Can you hear yourself? "Australia's first female prime minister". Can you not imagine for a second why that might be important to Australian women? But yes the mainstream media very rarely challenge the political establishment on these sorts of issues. Why is it feminism's job to change that? Why not yours?<br />
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<i>"In many of my books, female voices challenge a corrupt and militarised capitalist system, and it’s these characters that inspire me."</i><br />
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Characters? So you invent women and then say you're inspired by them? Does your imaginary girlfriend have a well-developed sense of irony? She's going to need it.<br />
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<i>"We rarely hear from those women in the west, and if we do they are buried under the din of articles about face-lifts and marrying George Clooney (a great recipe for click-baiting)."</i><br />
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Feminists have repeatedly complained about and campaigned against the over-coverage of those issues in the media. Why don't you add your voices to their rather then attacking them for "not campaigning hard enough".<br />
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<i>"I believe that’s part of the reason why female anti-feminism is growing, especially as issues many women see as tangential gain disproportionate online prominence."</i><br />
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Where's your science to back up "female anti-feminism is growing"? The only thing I see growing in male anti-feminism - yours.<br />
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<i>"In Unspeakable Things, British writer Laurie Penny argues: The feminism that sells is the sort of feminism that can appeal to almost everybody while challenging nobody, feminism that soothes, that speaks for and to the middle class, aspirational feminism that speaks of shoes and shopping and sugar-free snacks and does not talk about poor women, queer women, ugly women, transsexual women, sex workers, single parents, or anybody else who fails to fit the mould."</i><br />
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Yes the media generally picks up on the least challenging aspects of feminism. It's almost like they're not run by feminists.<br />
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<i>"This perfectly describes many western women who have become media spokespeople for their gender, appearing on TV with predictable lines."</i><br />
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Who? Who are you talking about? What predictable lines?<br />
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<i>"These are the same self-described feminists now salivating over the possible US presidency of Hillary Clinton, despite her record as a pro-war Democrat who believes in endless war. Yes, some feminist hero."</i><br />
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I don't know who you mean. But yes a female president of the US would be a big deal actually. I didn't think you actually had to have a vagina to get this but I'm starting to think you do.<br />
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<i>"In hindsight, there’s no solid reason why I couldn’t have written this article years ago, but I’ve hesitated to do so."</i><br />
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So you've been held back by "no solid reason"? FEMINISTS STOP!! Hold off on ending FGM. Let rape culture run a bit longer. Poor Anthony needs time to tie his shoelaces before he gets back on with attacking us.<br />
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<i>"I’ve worried that I would be slammed for my white, male position and dismissed as ignorant of the real problems faced by women today."</i><br />
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Have a cookie.<br />
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<i>"It’s an odd concern, because I don’t worry about extreme Zionists challenging me when I call them out on their racism (and I do receive plenty of vicious attacks whenever I write about it)."</i><br />
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Mmmm - comparing feminists to Zionists... Ho hum, makes a change from Hitler.<br />
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<i>"The bottom line is that writing about feminism when male is like gatecrashing a party – and I’m concerned I’ll be slammed for daring to arrive without an invitation. But the responsibility to advocate for half the population falls of everyone’s shoulders, not just women."</i><br />
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Advocating for half the population - great - go ahead. Telling us all we're doing it wrong while we're fighting for our own rights AND at the same time telling us that we need to prioritise attending to a vague intangible feeling of discomfort you're experiencing - consider yourself slammed you whiny waste of space. How can I put this clearly? YOU'RE NOT HELPING.<br />
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<i>"To do it meaningfully, however, we need to focus on the issues that truly need our help the most urgently: benefits taken away from single mums; sexual violence which affects all women, but especially already vulnerable ones; endemic racism which leads to parents of colour scared to have their child shot by police forces; lack of unionising or legislation which leaves women without working rights worldwide; the right not subject to rape threats and abuse, online and offline; equal pay for equal work."</i><br />
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But if we talk about online abuse (like Gillard's) we're missing the point? Feminists I know are campaigning on all these issues. If you think more needs doing, good, I agree, now here's an idea: do it.<br />
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<i>"Ultimately, I realise I’ve been been too cautious for too long, not daring to add my voice to the debate. I agree with The Atlantic’s Noah Berlatsky who states that although misogyny predominantly affects women, “it’s important for men to acknowledge that as long as women aren’t free, men won’t be either.”"</i><br />
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If you're only interested in helping women achieve equality because of what you, as a man, can gain from it, you're not a feminist, you're a self-interested shit.<br />
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<i>"But to win this battle, we have to remember that the debates about celebrity red carpet dresses and celeb-feminism are designed to distract us. This is feminism lite, and is little more than white noise. Gender equality will only be achieved by hard work and uncomfortable questions."</i><br />
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No it's not "feminism lite" it's not feminism. Feminism is not about celebrity dresses. It's about women. Always has been. And yes gender equality (MY equality) will only be achieved through hard work but how exactly is it therefore my job to do that work. Is it not the job of sexists to STOP BEING SEXIST? Why should it be left to the victims of inequality to end inequality. The whole point of inequality is that we have less resources with which to do so.<br />
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So thanks for your input on the five hundred subjects that feminism ought to be doing more about Anthony but my schedule's actually pretty full right now. To be honest I could do without the extra work of telling you where to stick your patronising anti-feminist bullshit.<br />
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And breath.Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-44593351402878451922014-10-16T16:29:00.001+01:002014-10-16T16:30:16.374+01:00Parenting 1.01About four years ago a Daily Mail writer by the name of Kelly Rose Bradford took exception to me shredding some dreadful piece of journalism she had produced. Her concerns, she insisted, were principally for the well-being of her son (who she then tried to charge me £500 for a picture of). You can read <a href="http://cruellablog.blogspot.co.uk/2010/07/its-so-liberating-not-being-feminist.html">my piece and the saga of her complaints here</a>.<br />
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So imagine my surprise to open up the <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2794599/i-love-dog-son.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Daily Mail website </a>today and find self same parent-of-the-year MISS Kelly Rose Bradford has published a piece about how she prefers her dog to her son. The article of course is replete with images of said dog and said son with captions like <i>"William can sometimes get jealous of his mother's constant canine companion"</i>. They might as well just be honest and say "William is at risk of bullying and low self esteem because of this article".<br />
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Miss Bradford is keen to assuage our worries though... <i>"Before you pick up the phone to the NSPCC, you should know that I'm not alone in how I feel"</i>. No, I'm sure you're not, but you are alone in publishing your thoughts in a national newspaper along with actual close-up photos and the full name and age of the child concerned. Top quality parenting Kelly, keep at it. Sigh.<br />
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<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Last month while I was appearing at the Edinburgh Fringe David Cameron was in Westminster putting together a hilarious little skit of his own. My favourite of his jokes was “sometimes politicians shy away from talking about the family”.</span></div>
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<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">No they don’t. Politicians love talking about the family. They think it makes them seem less like swollen corrupt egos in sweat-creased suits and more earthy and wholesome. Given the chance they would gladly wrestle one another to the ground to get their puckered lips on a photogenic baby. Posing on the school run and being interviewed by MumsNet are rites of passage for the ambitious modern politician as much as pretending to be working class or explaining away photographs of dominatrices.</span></div>
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<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Family is also a great subject on which to show a little stage-managed weakness, an exercise overpaid PR consultants probably call "humanising". The kid with the gappy teeth, the tussle for the remote control, airbrushed into adorability by the same PR egos. Ooops! Mum’s dropped the Christmas turkey! But they muddle on ignoring Granny's snoring and rolling their eyes at Dad's dodgy jokes like the Waitrose Waltons.</span></div>
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<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">He'd never say "I'm far from the perfect economist" because it's true. He stupidly quotes the long-disproven pseudo-economics that is the Laffer Curve and insists that trickle-down economics is a real thing. The best way to get money to poor people is by giving it to rich people? What next, help the hungry by feeding the obese? Improving health by operating on the fit and well?</span></div>
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<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">The flip side is that while he did leave his daughter at the pub that one time and you or I shiver at the thought of waking up next to his smug doughy face, in many respects he is the “perfect” father and husband. He’s loaded, well-connected and even takes them on loads of fancy holidays.</span></div>
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<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Teachers know that most families in Britain are nothing like the Camerons. The prime minister’s family probably haven't noticed the child benefit freeze, the bedroom tax, the cut to the childcare component of Working Tax Credits or the fact that you now have to work an extra eight hours a week to even qualify for them. They could always balance out the shortfall by christening their new yacht with a jeroboam, rather than a methuselah, of champagne. (And, yes, I've won a lot of pub quizzes!)</span></div>
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<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">And another thing. Let's be frank - some families are rubbish. Some too busy and stressed out to care, and some who just downright don't care. Heartbreaking, yes, but utterly unsurprising as the only qualification required for parenthood is leaving your condom in your other coat.</span></div>
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<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">The group of people who have qualifications to support young people is of course teachers. [Insert your own snide remark about unqualified teachers and bear in mind that it’s unlikely the very worst of them could be as dangerous in their job as one M. Gove. Good riddance.]</span></div>
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From todays MailOnline website: EVEN when she was climbing into the speedboat, Amal managed to stay composed.<br />
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This is definitely NEWS. Personally when I get into a speedboat I just stand on the dock and fall forwards onto my face. That's probably why I'm not married to George Clooney.Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-30717741276569827572014-09-03T22:02:00.000+01:002014-09-03T22:02:00.391+01:00How disappointing you are Kelly Brook.Kelly Brook has "opened up" to the Daily Male about "her relationship with her breasts". I didn't read the article - I hope she says "they're attached to the front of my chest, which is good cos it'd be awkward if they were on my elbows".<br />
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In the process she mentions - and headliner-writers leap on the fact that she is a bra size 30FF. Her IQ is not published, presumably because she's smart enough to know there's no point issuing a press release about that.<br />
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The trouble is this. Her range of underwear at New Look doesn't include ANY bras in a 30 back size or ANY bras in a FF cup size. So NONE of the underwear that bears her name in the high street would fit her.<br />
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And this is an issue, because thousands of women struggle to find affordable clothes that actually fit. Dress sizes are a total nonsense. I don't know anyone who just "is" a dress size, everyone is one size on the top half and another on the bottom half or needs extra width in the arms, or the legs, or the bust, or whatever. We all make do and adjust and end up paying over the odds. I'm not asking Brook to become some sort of ambassador for body confidence - I'm saying did it not occur to her during her intensive hands-on participation in the design process to say "could the range of sizes include my size?"?<br />
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It also means (in case it wasn't obvious) that EVERY SINGLE PHOTO OF HER MODELLING HER COLLECTION IS FAKED ONE WAY OR ANOTHER...<br />
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***What the f*ck? In the hours since I wrote the piece below rather than take down the awful piece, the Daily Mail have "updated" their article to name her and un-pixelate the photos of her, and add more photos of her in swimwear and a quote from her Dad (saying she is devastated and didn't bully anyone). Sick.***<br />
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In the wake of the Santa Barbara shootings lots of people are talking about the extent to which the killer was involved with online "men's rights" groups and the extent to which exposure to "pick-up artist" communities and online porn had influenced his expectations about relationships and attitudes towards women and men around him. As has been widely reported, he left a video on YouTube and a "manifesto" in which he said he was angry that women were not interested in him and planned violence in reaction to this. Having<a href="http://www.feministtimes.com/the-essential-feminists-guide-to-pick-up-artists/"> written a piece myself </a>on how sinister the pick-up artist movement can be I was interested to see what links others were drawing. Perhaps I should have known better, Daily Mail, but I clicked a link to your page... (I've done a screen grab because I don't want to publish a link)<br />
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Firstly you're using the occasion of a horrific mass murder as an excuse to print sexy pictures of a very young woman who has not consented to appearing in your newspaper. AND you're pointing the finger at this woman as if somehow the killings were her fault. Sick sick sick.<br />
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You claim the moral high ground by not printing her name. Obviously a slightly pixellated photograph is going to leave her completely identifiable to anyone who really knows her. AND you printed details of work that she's done and details about her family and their jobs. Frankly you would not have to be Sherlock Holmes to fill in the blanks.<br />
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And lets look at the details. You claim that Elliot Rodger was teased by this woman leading to him developing a hatred of all women. On that, three things:<br />
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(1) Where is the evidence that any teasing took place? In a video made by a man who overtly hates women. Is that a reliable source of evidence? Of course not. In fact it seems clear from his actual words (if you had bothered to listen to them) that in fact he had a crush on her and felt teased because she wasn't interested. THAT IS NOT TEASING, WOMEN HAVE A RIGHT TO NOT BE INTERESTED IN GUYS WHO FANCY THEM.<br />
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(2) One woman being mean to you (which all the evidence suggests she wasn't) is not a good reason to hate all women. Generalising based on one individual is one of the most basic forms of bigotry. Why haven't you mentioned this (other than by doing it throughout the rest of your paper)? Otherwise one guy shooting people would be a good reason to lock all men up (not just Daily Mail journalists).<br />
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(3) When did this awful alleged teasing take place? When she was in seventh grade (age 12 or 13). Yes seriously. YOU'RE BLAMING A TWELVE-YEAR-OLD GIRL FOR A MASS MURDER AND PRINTING HER PHOTO.<br />
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And you repeatedly mention the killer was a virgin and was angry about being a virgin. Could you perhaps explain WHAT YOU EXPECT A 12-YEAR-OLD TO DO ABOUT THAT?<br />
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Perhaps the most sickening sentence is this one "MailOnline has approached the girl for a comment but she has yet to respond.". You rang her up? What did you say??<br />
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"Hey really sorry to hear about people in your community being brutally murdered by someone you were at school with. Yeah you probably heard about it because he mentioned you in a video. Yeah, yeah, that guy. On the news, yeah. Stop crying. So we're going to write a piece about you on the world's most-read news website and print some sexy pictures of you we stole off Facebook in which we're going to be, erm, pondering the theory, that maybe the multiple horrible murders were actually your fault. We were wondering if you'd like to make a statement about... Why are you screaming at me? I'm a what? ... A sick, disgusting, immoral asshole? Yeah I get that a lot, it's kindof in the job description. So any statement from you or shall I just say you have yet to respond?"<br />
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New low, even for you Daily Mail. New low.Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-75469601040516918842014-01-27T22:23:00.000+00:002014-01-27T22:24:10.746+00:00Look at this AMAZING and HILARIOUS advert!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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"Bit of a mix up?" LOL "However carefully you plan, things can go wrong." I know the feeling!<br />
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As you can see this poor man's glad he bought flexicover (TM) travel insurance because he's been left with a PINK suitcase.<br />
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As we all know it cannot possibly be his. No man would ever own a PINK suitcase. Or borrow one off their wife. Or boyfriend. Or just buy one in the shops because it's a nice bright colour and he figures it will be easy to spot at the airport. That would NEVER happen because as we all know...<br />
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Ha ha ha. Who comes up with this stuff? HILARIOUS.<br />
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Note: Do not adjust your screen - it is still 2014.<br />
<br />Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-37285903380989147062014-01-19T16:06:00.000+00:002014-01-19T16:06:54.975+00:00Racism and abortionI always enjoy being on The Big Questions and today was no exception (you can watch here: http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b007zpll for the next seven days). As usual I spent the whole time with my hand in the air trying to deal with just a few of the obnoxious things people were expressing from all sides (don't even get me started on the man who thinks children can be possessed by the devil!). There was one point I didn't get to respond to on air which I really really wanted to (unsurprisingly) ... the allegations that my views on sex-selective abortion are somehow racist or culturally insensitive.<br />
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The claim (for those who missed the show) is that some women from certain cultural groups - India was mentioned - are under great pressure from their families to have boys and therefore we should ban doctors from telling women the sex of their foetus in order to make it harder for them to be forced into having abortions. It was also claimed that women from these communities are at risk of domestic violence if they give birth to girls. So...<br />
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1. As it happened both the Asian women on the show agreed with the claim. This doesn't mean all Asian women agree, nor does it mean that I shouldn't express my differing opinion out of "respect". In fact it would be disrespectful to (a) not represent the views of Asian women not included in the show's line up and (b) act as though these women are incapable of dealing with debate or holding their own. [And for note I have no idea in advance about who will be on the show and no control over it.]<br />
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2. A foetus is a part of a woman's body while it is growing. She should have the right to know any information she wants to about it. Or not if she doesn't. It's her body.<br />
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3. I would rather a woman have the freedom to get an abortion if she wants one than that she be put at risk of domestic violence. Obviously.<br />
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4. If a woman feels she wants to continue a pregnancy but knows she will be at risk of violence or other abuse if she does (for any reason) she should be offered a place in a refuge and support to rebuild her life away from the people who are threatening her. Also obviously.<br />
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5. The alternative is this. A white woman says "I wanted to be pregnant but now my partner's ill and I've just lost my job, I'd like an abortion." And I say "ok, that's your choice". A brown woman says "I wanted to have a baby but now I've discovered it's a female foetus and this could put me at risk of violence, I'd like an abortion". And I say "no, your choice is not valid". Guess what that would be? Racist.<br />
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In fact no-one has an abortion for a single reason. And no-one has an abortion purely because of the sex of the foetus. These cases (and in the UK, the British Pregnancy Advisory Service, who perform a third of all abortions say they are not aware of any ethnic groups seeking sex-selective terminations) in fact are about women choosing abortion because of the combination of the sex of the foetus, the cultural norms of the community and family they live in and the alternative support options open to them. We should be focussed on changing the cultural norms and giving these women a better and wider range of support options.<br />
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Otherwise we effectively turn to women who have been deprived of the understanding that girls can have successful careers, make money, achieve great things and make families very proud and tell them that since they're deprived of that knowledge we're going to deprive them of some other knowledge too. Welcome (back) to the dark ages!!<br />
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Of course we also have to consider the other likely consequences. If these families are so determined to force women to abort female foetuses what is to stop:<br />
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1. Dangerous, illegal backstreet scans and abortions?<br />
2. Women being sent to other countries for scans and abortions (including places where maternal death rates are much higher and women's rights - for example to seek help if they experience violence - are not well enforced)?<br />
3. Women claiming to have a family history of breast cancer or other gender-specific illness in order to create a medical reason for being told their foetus's sex?<br />
4. These unwanted girls being cruelly mistreated?<br />
<br />Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com13tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-31639069837220211982014-01-10T22:44:00.000+00:002014-01-10T22:44:15.873+00:00Daily Fail vs Fat Thuts line-by-lineDid you make a new year's resolution? Maybe to quit smoking or make time to visit an elderly relative? The Daily Fail have resolved to keep finding more reasons for women to hate their bodies. Perhaps you don't have cellulite (normal legs), skin blemishes (freckles), muffin top (not a problem for those of us who wear onesies all day), side boob (or is that a good one? I prefer mine on the front.), cankles (no idea but apparently Cheryl Cole's got one so probably anger management issues and a tendency to racism), crow's feet (these are considered very sexy on crows though), witch's hands (probably caused by choking journalists to death). Fear not, you too can hate your normal natural body thanks to the Daily Fail's pioneering efforts to rebrand your it as a source of shame and horror.<br />
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To which end may I present ladies and gentlemen: <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2535527/Should-worried-thut-How-sedentary-lifestyles-causing-rise-seamless-thigh-butt.html">The THUT</a>!! Allow me to explain, one line at a time...<br />
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<i>"Fitness experts have claimed that our sedentary lifestyles mean more women are losing the definition between their thighs and their butt than ever before."</i><br />
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Than ever before? Can someone show me the graph of this? How many women were losing butt-thigh definition in the 1860s? We need to know. That's probably why they all wore those big hoop skirts. Aha!!<br />
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<i>"The ‘thut’ as it was coined by NYmag.com, is when the muscles on the back of a woman’s legs are undeveloped – leading their butt and thigh to appear as a single piece of anatomy."</i><br />
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Yes ladies and remember your bodies must always be made up of separate anatomical items so you're nice and easy to objectify. For more info see our celebrity pages (2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26 and 27 in today's issue).<br />
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<i>"According to experts, the issue is caused by a lack of targeted muscle tone and does not reflect the physical anatomy for a flat derrière."</i><br />
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Who are these "flat derriere experts"? How do you apply for that job? What is going on?<br />
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<i>"‘It’s not the same thing,’ Cynthia Shipley, an instructor with True Pilates told MailOnline. ‘You have to look for definition, if the hamstrings are developed and if the buttocks is lifted.’"</i><br />
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How ironic for the Daily Fail to quote a woman from an organisation with "True" in the name. But she's not an expert, she's a gym teacher, with classes to sell. That's like saying the "nutrition experts" at Cadbury's think we should eat more Creme Eggs. Mind you, the Daily Mail would probably publish that story too.<br />
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<i>"The thut's muscular origins are part of a postural support group that help dictate standing, lifting, and walking movements."</i><br />
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Yes the third year of a medical degree involves an in-depth study of the thut. You'll often have heard medical experts refer to Daily Mail journos as "a bloody great pain in the thut".<br />
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<i>"The grouping's lack of development can be attributed to a shift in working culture, where many Americans sit in a desk chair all day rather than working in manual-labor-intensive occupations."</i><br />
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Is the Daily Mail an American paper now? But don't people in sedentary jobs also not exercise their legs and torsos much? Did the Daily Mail only just notice there was something between?<br />
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<i>"Circles of online writers have thus begun referring to the issue as 'blogger butt'."</i><br />
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Could that be the word of 2014? And isn't the word "thut" enough? Do we need more made-up nonsense words? Or as I like to call them Turdinologies.<br />
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<i>"Valerie Samulski, the Pilates coordinator for YogaWorks in New York further emphasized the thut’s muscle tone quotient. ‘It just makes it look like your but has dropped down into your leg, you lose that lift – it looks like mush and in fact it is,’ she said."</i><br />
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Sorry the "muscle tone quotient" - a quotient is the relationship between two numbers. Which two numbers are we talking about here? And no part of a woman's body is made of "mush", you might legitimately use the term as an analogy, but to describe it as "fact" is definitely nonsense.<br />
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<i>"Ms Samulski says the thut ‘is not genetic – it’s really just a product of muscle tone and definition. It may be harder for someone to shape their muscles because of genetics, but mostly this is a problem of tone and proper use.’"</i><br />
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Body shape is a mixture of genetics and training? STOP PRESS!! Why has this never bee mentioned before?!<br />
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<i>"While NYmag widely introduced thut terminology to the fitness-obsessed earlier this week with an instructional article, many fitness experts admitted to MailOnline that they had not yet heard of the word (though Ms Samulski admitted that, until now, she has referred to it as the butt-leg)."</i><br />
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No way - so a made-up word that was made up this week hasn't yet been adopted by everyone? And thank goodness! I wasn't happy with just the words "thut" and "blogger butt", I also need to use "butt leg" to insult myself.<br />
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<i>"Research shows, however, that the thut has been included in fitness vernacular for at least the last three years."</i><br />
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Quit the etymology and get on with telling me how to hate myself already!<br />
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<i>"Its mention began appearing in TRX-workout-centric articles circa 2011, and the first Urban Dictionary entry dedicated to the thut was created in 2007."</i><br />
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Commit this stuff to memory - you know it'll be on QI next week. (Also note that earlier in the same article they claim the word was "coined" by NYMag. BY their own admission, a lie.)<br />
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<i>"In conversation, though, experts found the term superfluous and representative of 'another aesthetic obsession that people are latching on to because it is another way of judging if you are fit,' says Annie Mulgrew, the director of programming at City Row – New York City’s first-ever interval rowing studio, which opened just this week."</i><br />
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"Interestingly the Daily Mail journo googled "superfluous and judgemental" to come up with the idea for the article" says Kate Smurthwaite who is appearing at the Churchill Theatre in Bromley tomorrow.<br />
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<i>"HOW TO LOSE YOUR 'THUT'"</i><br />
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Hang on - I only just got it. Let me enjoy it for a few minutes first ok?<br />
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<i>"Om Factory's Michelle Velasquez says that practitioners should focus on ‘squats and lifting’ as a solution."</i><br />
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Practitioners of what? Self loathing?<br />
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<i>"Annie Mulgrew of City Row pinpoints rowing as a feasible fix. The exercise has recently come to the fitness forefront for its ability to work the legs with minimal joint impact, ‘toning and lengthening them very quickly,’ she says."</i><br />
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Aha - the woman who runs the rowing gym thinks the best exercise is rowing. And now over to Jim at Squat-U-Like...<br />
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<i>"And YogaWorks Pilates coordinator Valerie Samulski offered that any floor exercise ‘where the legs are behind the body and you are working at raising them in gravity,’ like the yoga poses dhanurasana and shalabhasana, will help."</i><br />
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Hello? Is that The Times? I've got a story for you, hold the front page. Yoga teacher reckons you should do yoga. Thank me later.<br />
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<i>"But if a thut does create aesthetic-related anxiety, gravitational exercises involving leg lifts, squats, and isolated weight training can help alleviate the issue."</i><br />
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A thut doesn't create aesthetic-related anxiety. Articles in national papers telling me what's "wrong" with my body do that. Here's an exercise you can try. Bend at the waist and throw the paper in a dustbin.<br />
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<i>"Ms Mulgrew says that ‘your legs muscles, your quads, hamstrings, calves, and your gluts can all be toned and in doing so you can absolutely create definition so that your butt appears lifted and firmed.’"</i><br />
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Muscles can be toned. Other things that will make your butt appear lifted and firmed include holding it with your hands, balancing it on a small ledge and having it photoshopped.<br />
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<i>"She cautioned, though, that while thuts are fixable, ‘people have different body types and they have to respect that. Men and women also tone very differently.’"</i><br />
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My body type is "gets angry near patronising yoga teachers".<br />
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<i>"Michelle Velasquez, a yoga instructor at Manhattan's Om Factory says that ‘when it comes to butt definition you can grow a butt. You won’t be a big booty chick, but you can grow muscle. You will get a little bump or something,’"</i><br />
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Scientists have been trying to grow a butt in the lab for years. I think maybe everyone involved in this article has already had a little bump. On the head.<br />
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<i>"She was also careful to note that tight denim pants are likely the only article of clothing in which a thut would prominently appear."</i><br />
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I'm glad she was careful to note that, you wouldn't want her just flippantly saying any old nonsense. Otherwise she'd never make it as a yoga instructor - she'd be snapped up by the Daily Mail's editorial team.<br />
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<i>"Thut or no thut, Ms Samulski says that the area’s overall health is important for its role in the postural support group: ‘It should be toned because it helps you stand properly.’"</i><br />
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Great advice. I remember only the other day seeing a man lying limply in the street and shouting "call a pilates instructor, quick!".<br />
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In next week's news: How can you lose your armbow? Can't wear min-skirts because of your knalf? Considering surgery for your heck? Why not have your unsightly brain removed and replaced with some expert-approved mush? It worked wonders for our house writers.<br />
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<br />Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-45045657480776633052013-11-28T03:25:00.003+00:002013-11-28T03:25:51.039+00:00Holy crap - I did not think I could get any angrier.I've made a point on here before about (1) why the Huffington Post has a special section on "divorce" and (2) how that section is full of very bad and ill-considered advice. This latest piece however is offensive and incredibly dangerous so it's unsurprising to find it was written by Laura Doyle, author of "The Surrendered Wife" - a whole book about how to improve your relationship by shutting up and pretending you like it. Vom. Again vom. Hold it. Hold it. Ok one more. VOM!!!<br />
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This article has the charming 1950s-theme title "<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/laura-doyle/women-five-reasons-your-d_b_2341955.html?utm_hp_ref=tw">Women: Five Reasons Your Divorce Is Your Fault</a>"* and here's every last appalling word shredded as hard as I damn well can. How dare she?<br />
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<i>"I teach intimacy skills, but not to couples and not to men."</i><br />
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From the title of your piece I'm guessing your target audience is only allowed out on day release.<br />
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<i>"I only teach them to women because we are the ones who have the power to make our relationships intimate."</i><br />
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Yes one person, on their own, can make a relationship intimate. That definitely works.<br />
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<i>"When a woman learns intimacy skills, her relationship becomes passionate and peaceful in about two weeks."</i><br />
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Firstly - this reads like an advert. Secondly - if it is, it needs reporting to the advertising standards authority because it's bullshit.<br />
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<i>"Clients often say, "I feel like I have a new husband.""</i><br />
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Ok listen up ladies. There is only one was to feel like you have a new husband. That is to get a new husband.<br />
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<i>"But he's not the one who changed -- she did, and then he responds to her differently."</i><br />
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How irresponsible is this? Whatever he does, however cruel, violent, indifferent, dishonest, unpleasant... it's her fault. Vom. (There's gonna be a lot of vom I think.)<br />
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<i>"That's how it always is when a woman has a good guy."</i><br />
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Oh a "good guy"? Remind me where the label is, I never can find it.<br />
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<i>"Of course, not all guys are good guys."</i><br />
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Actually it is rude and offensive to men to imagine there are just "good guys" and "bad guys". In fact men are a bit more varied than that.<br />
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<i>"If your husband is actively addicted to drugs, alcohol or gambling, or is physically abusive, or not capable of being faithful, yours is a divorce I endorse."</i><br />
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So physically abusive, I can leave but mentally abuse it's my fault. V... v...<br />
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<i>"Safety comes first and you're not safe in those situations because his compulsion will always come before you."</i><br />
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I am honestly offended that she even pretends to have the safety of women at heart. Abuse takes many forms, it's not as simple as physical violence, addiction and infidelity. And even without abuse of any kind, if a relationship isn't working and you feel it's time to leave you can and you should. You do not need this evil woman to "endorse" your divorce. I endorse it. Go ahead.<br />
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<i>"But if he doesn't fall into one of those categories, he's a good guy -- not a perfect guy, but one you can have a wonderful relationship with when you learn the skills that contribute to intimacy."</i><br />
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Yeah I mean if he just steals from you and calls you fat and stupid, he's one of the good guys. Yeah?<br />
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<i>"Below are five ways that women unwittingly sabotage their marriages, along with the proven remedies for restoring the love and closeness you once shared."</i><br />
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Silly women, ruining their marriages, all on their own, with absolutely no help from their partners.<br />
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<i>"1. Rejecting his efforts to make you happy"</i><br />
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Sorry where does it even say he makes efforts to make you happy?<br />
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<i>"Husbands and wives bring different strengths and desires to marriage."</i><br />
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All men are alike and so are all women. Remember reading that in those science journals?! This is probably why it's impossible to have a relationship with two men or two women.<br />
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<i>"For women, feeling cherished and desired is vital."</i><br />
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Ain't that right girlzzz?!! You know it...<br />
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<i>"For a man, respect and sex are of utmost importance."</i><br />
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Hold up! I get cherished and desired and he gets respect and sex? I think I might be a man. And I also think that people have to earn respect and that you shouldn't have sex with anyone you don't want to.<br />
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<i>"Men also have a powerful drive to make their wives happy -- it contributes to their feeling of success."</i><br />
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Some of them have a really funny way of showing it. Shouting, leaving all the housework to you, spending more time with their mates, for example.<br />
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<i>"You might think that your husband is the exception -- that he doesn't care about delighting you -- but he may just be discouraged because he doesn't feel that he can please you."</i><br />
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Yes he may be. Or he may not.<br />
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<i>"You have the power to transform your relationship by becoming pleasable, which means showing appreciation for his efforts instead of rejecting or dismissing them -- and by extension, him."</i><br />
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Whatever he does - act pleased. "Oh honey, I see you've left your dirty pants on the floor as a gift! You're so kind."<br />
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<i>"When you reject his efforts because they aren't what you had in mind (e.g., a present that isn't what you want, cleaning that's not to your standards, or a compliment you don't agree with), there's nothing he can do to improve the situation, but there is something powerful you can do: receive graciously."</i><br />
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There's lots he can do to improve the situation. Exchange the gift, clean more thoroughly and be more thoughtful in what he says. And remind me, what exactly should I do if he doesn't bring me presents, clean or compliment me? Oh that's right - blame myself, yes?<br />
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<i>"Remedy: Try an experiment for the next two weeks: However small or imperfect his efforts, receive what your husband offers when he is trying to please or help you."</i><br />
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Within two weeks he'll have decided you're perfectly happy with shit all over the bathroom floor and box set of a series you don't like for your birthday. That'll make your relationship better eh?<br />
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<i>"Thank him for his thoughtfulness."</i><br />
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Thoughtfulness would mean getting the present I actually wanted.<br />
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<i>"Notice how quickly this creates more intimacy as you practice the skill of receiving graciously."</i><br />
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Ah yes, the vast improvement in intimacy that comes from lying through your teeth. Well known that.<br />
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<i>"2. Taking the same approach at home as you do at work"</i><br />
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Well lets see, I'm a comedian. The usual way I interact with people at work I talk to them through a microphone, they sit in silence and laugh and if they interrupt me to talk I take the mickey out of them for doing so. All these years I've been coming home and replicating that. Was it a mistake?<br />
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<i>"We women can create a gratifying culture of intimacy, if we know how."</i><br />
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Is she talking about starting a lesbian commune...? Interesting idea.<br />
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<i>"If all we've ever been taught is how to get ahead in school and career, but not how to foster intimacy, it's pretty hard to change hats when the work day is done and we want a loving, supportive home."</i><br />
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Is that all women have been taught? Amazing the pay gap's still so big then eh?<br />
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<i>"At work we have to manage projects and staff, move the bottom line and get that promotion."</i><br />
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No at work I have to tell jokes. Women. Not. All. Same. Capiche?<br />
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<i>"At home the goals are different; we want to feel appreciated and wanted and get more help around the house."</i><br />
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Get more help around the house? Who says housework is a woman's job and the best she can hope for is for a guy to "help"? I don't want a guy to help. I want him to take responsibility for at least half of it. Hopefully more. I'm busy.<br />
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<i>"But if you treat your husband like an employee, he will rebel."</i><br />
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You better hope he doesn't unionise. Also he's only an employee if you are the one who manages the home. And that doesn't have to be your job. If he acts like an employee, waiting to be told what to do - and then doing it badly - you have a problem.<br />
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<i>"Respecting your husband by saying what you want instead of telling him what to do gives him the opportunity to make you happy in a way that no amount of managing ever will."</i><br />
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Great advice - be passive aggressive. Don't ask him to do things directly, just sit around dropping hints. "I really want that litter tray to no longer contain cat faeces." (roll eyes upwards, whistle)<br />
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<i>"Remedy: For two weeks say what you want, but not what he should do or how he should do it."</i><br />
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For example say "I want a clean bathroom floor". But remember when he only wipes the taps you have to act thrilled even though the bin's overflowing and there's something that looks like shit on the floor.<br />
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<i>"Be patient and allow him to find his own way of pleasing you."</i><br />
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Sit around in a relationship that doesn't work and pretend it does...?<br />
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<i>"Remember, he wants to. Let him, and he will."</i><br />
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That's the big problem, eh? All these guys out there dying to be better husbands and us awful women just not letting them. Thank goodness Laura Doyle is on hand to set us straight. Ok, trying to resist but... Vom.<br />
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<i>"3. Withholding sex"</i><br />
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Vom, vom, vom. If you don't want to have sex - don't.<br />
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<i>"Most men need sex more than women to feel intimate."</i><br />
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Where's the science on this? The idea that men want more sex than women is not supported by science. It's a dangerous myth that leads to hyper-masculinised culture and feelings of shame and inadequacy on all sides.<br />
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<i>"You are his only source for that vital form of connecting, and when you withhold -- whether to punish or because you're exhausted -- you miss a chance to receive the intimacy that you both crave."</i><br />
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What about if he's the one who doesn't want sex? Or does every relationship fit your brain-dead one-size-fits-all model? Because all men are horny all the time and all women are horrified by this, right?<br />
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<i>"Remedy: Over the next two weeks as you start experiencing more intimacy, consider making yourself available for sex at least once a week in support of your mutual goal of connecting."</i><br />
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Has anyone EVER advised men to improve their relationship by "making themselves available for sex"? The whole phrase makes it sound like sex is something men do to women, who just lie there and put up with it. If this is how it works in your relationship - that is a problem.<br />
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<i>"4. Initiating divorce when the problem isn't insurmountable"</i><br />
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If the other person doesn't want to address the problem - the problem is insurmountable. Unless you're in one of those one-person marriages.<br />
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<i>"Women initiate between 66% and 90% of all divorces."</i><br />
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Thank you science. What does initiate mean in this context anyway? Maybe sometimes men initiate by being a pain in the backside and women relent and admit there's a problem. The evidence also shows at least 75% of women say they are happier one year after divorce, so on the whole women were right to initiate.<br />
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<i>"You might think that's because men do things to make marriage untenable -- like cheat or hit them -- but I hear about women divorcing because he didn't help with the baby, he was emotionally unavailable, or because they grew apart."</i><br />
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Hands up everyone who wants to spend the rest of their life with an emotionally unavailable guy who doesn't help with the baby? Also it's not "helping" with the baby - it's his kid too and his job too to take responsibility for the baby.<br />
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<i>"Countless women tell me they divorced because their husbands weren't capable of meeting their needs."</i><br />
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And you tell them sorry, no bruises? Then this helpful counsellor can't endorse the divorce. You need to try pretending to be happy and having sex when you don't want to.<br />
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<i>"When the women I work with learn intimacy skills, it changes the way they see a previous marriage."</i><br />
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Yes when you tell women their relationship problems are all their own fault it probably does make them feel like crap.<br />
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<i>"Some women tell me that they realize they were married to a good guy, but divorced because they lacked the skills to have a happy relationship."</i><br />
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Some people believe your bullshit? What a shame.<br />
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<i>"Sometimes it causes them enormous grief."</i><br />
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Then don't say such horrid untrue things if you know it's going to upset people. It's called bullying.<br />
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<i>"It is heartbreaking to see marriages end because of a simple lack of skills."</i><br />
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It is and that's why home economics, cooking and cleaning should be on the national curriculum for both girls and boys.<br />
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<i>"It's no different than seeing someone try to drive a car without a single lesson: A crash is inevitable, but it's preventable."</i><br />
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It's very different. Many people who have never even heard of your advice and indeed think it's utter bullcrap have happy and successful relationships. And I'd also bet some people do exactly what you say and it makes them really miserable.<br />
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<i>"Remedy: Consider taking divorce off the table just for the next two weeks, keeping in mind that intimacy needs safety to thrive."</i><br />
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So to recap - you wanted to divorce this guy because he gets shit presents, doesn't do his share of the housework or the child care, says thoughtless things and demands sex all the time when you don't want it. And her advice is to pretend you don't want a divorce, not challenge him about the housework or child care, pretend you like the presents and the weird compliments and give him sex whenever he wants? Well I'm sure he'll love that but what exactly are you getting out of this? Aside from exhausted?<br />
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<i>"In my experience, any woman who has a good guy can bring her marriage back from the brink of divorce and transform it into a happy, loving relationship by practicing the intimacy skills."</i><br />
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Pretending to be happy when you're not really shouldn't be called an intimacy skill. If anything it's an acting skill.<br />
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<i>"You can do the same."</i><br />
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Yes you - you with the guy who steals your money. You with the guy who's just realised he's gay. You with the guy who screams at you and calls you a bitch. All you have to do is say "thank you for the compliment" and do all the housework yourself. Even if this shit worked, at best it would create the fake appearance of a happy relationship. A good relationship means you get to ask for what you want.<br />
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<i>"5. Waiting for him to improve"</i><br />
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So mistake number four is initiating a divorce and mistake number five is waiting? And doing either of these things make the relationship mess your fault? Of course!<br />
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<i>"You might wonder why there's no article for men explaining what they can do to improve their marriages."</i><br />
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I think it's because you're a nasty evil misogynist Laura. Anyone else?<br />
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<i>"Even if there was, you couldn't make your husband read it or do what it says. "</i><br />
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Are you in a relationship with a guy who would refuse to read a newspaper article if you told him it was important to you that he did? I will not date this guy. He's a tosser.</div>
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<i>"You can change yourself, and he will respond to you differently."</i><br />
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Yes - change yourself. Vom. Just be someone else. Someone who likes shit on the bathroom floor and crap presents.<br />
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<i>"Remedy: Instead of pleading, criticizing or demanding that your husband change, try the remedies above for two weeks."</i><br />
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Yes don't try to change things by directly challenging problems or talking to him like an adult. Instead sneak around lying to him in the hope that you can manipulate him into changing.<br />
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<i>"To learn how, get the free 17-page e-book Six Lessons for Lasting Love at LauraDoyle.org"</i><br />
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Yes this is a line in an ARTICLE on Huffington Post. They should admit they're no longer about journalism, they're just a blog for marketers. Creepy misogynist ones.<br />
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<i>"If you want peace in your marriage, then let it begin with you."</i><br />
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If you want anything in your marriage then both of you have to have a frank talk about it and agree on a plan. If you don't do this fairly regularly anyway there's not much hope for you.<br />
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Bottom line is this - the message that "the problem is you" and "I'm just reacting to you" is EXACTLY what emotionally abusive partners say to retain control. And just because a guy isn't violent or on hard drugs doesn't mean he's a "good guy". In fact maybe this article is all a clever trick. Show it to your man, if he thinks it makes any good points, dump him - he's an emotional abuser.<br />
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To suggest that women and women alone are responsible for making relationships work, that housework and childcare are the woman's responsibility, that divorce is always a bad thing which must involve blame, that men are all the same and women all the same, that gender roles should be strictly adhered to. These are attitudes from a bygone era. And then, and now, they're bollocks.<br />
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PS Dear Laura, while I was writing this my boyfriend has cleaned out the cupboard under the sink of his own volition. I have no idea what my husband was doing, he hasn't lived here for nearly two years. Please remind me what I'm supposed to feel bad about, it's so confusing.<br />
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*Do not adjust your clock, it is still 2013. I know.Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-63203633613426051952013-11-21T00:37:00.003+00:002013-11-21T00:37:51.229+00:0036 Facts About Divorce - Corrected VersionWhy exactly the Huffington Post thinks it needs a special section on the subject of divorce is beyond me. I never turned on the news to hear "And after the sports headlines we'll be getting a brief update on global divorce news". And for the record I don't think sports are news either! Today a particular piece caught my eye and ire. And I do have some experience in the matter so here's a corrected version of "<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/19/divorce-advice-_n_4269964.html">36 Things I Wish Someone Told Me About Divorce</a>". <br />
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<i>"1. It's nothing at all like when your husband was away on business and it was nice to have the bed to yourself. That gets old. You get lonely."</i><br />
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1. Once you're divorced you can sleep around guilt-free.<br />
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<i>"2. He's not going to be there. Ever. Never again in the way that he was. He's gone. For good."</i><br />
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2. That was the point. If you wanted him around you wouldn't have gotten divorced.<br />
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<i>"3. Don't rush things unless you are in an abusive situation."</i><br />
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3. Don't waste your life putting up with something that isn't right and doesn't make you happy.<br />
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<i>"4. You may want to hide when you are first going through divorce. You won't want to talk about it with anyone."</i><br />
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4. Yes you may feel this way. Or you may not. You may want to go out and enjoy yourself. That's ok too.<br />
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<i>"5. You will have to remind yourself that you are not a failure. That the relationship simply ran its course, it had an expiration date."</i><br />
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5. If anyone tries to suggest that divorce is a sign of "failure" stop being friends with them and don't go to their church.<br />
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<i>"6. You may never feel truly sure you made the right decision particularly if you have children together."</i><br />
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6. Or you might be confident that this is the best thing for you. And the best thing for you IS the best thing for your kids, they don't want to be raised by two people who don't want to be together.<br />
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<i>"7. There is going to be an in-law situation and you won't know how to carry on your relationship with them."</i><br />
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7. You can stay friends with the in-laws if you want. You don't have to. Mine are lovely, we hang out.<br />
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<i>"8. When your kids are sick, you are the only one home to care for them and he's not there to ask him for help."</i><br />
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8. You might need childcare support. The absent parent should help with this, financially or practically.<br />
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<i>"9. When you are sick, he is no longer there to care for you."</i><br />
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9. Lets hope your hot new boyfriend knows how to stick a Lemsip in the microwave.<br />
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<i>"10. You will miss his cooking, even if he isn't a good cook, but simply because there was someone else there to make meals and it isn't all on you. And if he was a good cook, it's going to be even harder."</i><br />
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10. If you had a long day - you can order delivery food. Or just have a sandwich.<br />
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<i>"11. You still may call him by the pet name you had for him and it slips out when discussing a matter and it hangs there in the air and hurts."</i><br />
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11. If you ever called him "snugglewumps" in Starbucks you are weird.<br />
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<i>"12. If you thought talking about money with your husband was hard, try talking about money with your ex-husband."</i><br />
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12. If it was always a problem talking about money, you were right to consider divorce.<br />
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<i>"13. There will be no more "stay here with the kids for an hour so I can run out to do errands.""</i><br />
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13. You can say "stay here with the kids for an hour so I can run out to do errands." to neighbours, friends, relatives, that hot new boyfriend or your lodger. Also you can drop them off with an absent parent and have a spa day.<br />
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<i>"14. It may feel natural to reach out to hold onto his arm when you go out for coffee to discuss the kids, but you aren't supposed to hold onto his arm anymore."</i><br />
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14. Missing out on intimacy? Buy a dildo.<br />
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<i>"15. You will miss your wedding ring... feeling it there on your finger and what it represented."</i><br />
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15. Your wedding ring represented a relationship that wasn't working. Take it off.<br />
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<i>"16. Your wedding album is like a ghost."</i><br />
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16. Why are you sat around flicking through old photos? Go out and get laid.<br />
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<i>"17. You won't know what to do with your wedding dress."</i><br />
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17. The only people who ever get to re-use a wedding dress are divorcees.<br />
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<i>"18. If you knew what you knew now, you wouldn't have spent all that money on that wedding dress. Instead you should have banked it to save for couples' therapy."</i><br />
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18. Couples therapy is usually overpriced.<br />
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<i>"19. You might have to politely ask your parents to take down your wedding photo they still have hanging on the wall in the living room because it hurts too much to see it."</i><br />
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19. If your parents keep some photos up it should save you all that time spent flicking through old albums.<br />
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<i>"20. It's not easy. Not even if you are the one who wanted a divorce."</i><br />
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20. Being in a relationship that doesn't work is exhausting. Making some meals for one is not so bad.<br />
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<i>"21. You'll wonder if he's dating someone new and if he's thinking she's better than you."</i><br />
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21. You'll start dating someone new. That'll take your mind off things.<br />
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<i>"22. When he gets serious with another woman, dealing with that woman being around your children is going to be harder than you could ever imagine."</i><br />
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22. Great news, if he starts seeing someone else she can help look after your kids while you run those errands. Plus kids benefit from relationships with a wide range of adults.<br />
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<i>"23. After all the hurt subsides, you remember all the good things and sort of forget the bad and the hurt starts again but in a different way."</i><br />
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23. The relationship ended for a reason. It wasn't working.<br />
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<i>"24. What if... there will be lots of these."</i><br />
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24. What if you meet someone great? What if you get a job on a tropical island?<br />
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<i>"25. You will look at your kids, that are his kids too, and wonder how in the world are you going to be able to make it through all these holidays for the rest of your lives and still figure out how to be a family that is no longer living together."</i><br />
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25. Your kids will grow up. Then they can choose where to spend Christmas. As can you.<br />
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<i>"26. You may notice it feels weird to still have the gifts he's given to you over the years, even if it's something as mundane as a toaster. And you may start having nostalgia about the toaster."</i><br />
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26. You may need counselling.<br />
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<i>"27. You might fondle the silverware gifted to you at your bridal shower and feel bad that all your friends and family gave you all these wonderful gifts for a marriage that didn't last."</i><br />
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27. Who the hell fondles silverware? Get a vibrator.<br />
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<i>"28. You may worry some of your friends might be thinking about those gifts they gifted you."</i><br />
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28. Anyone more bothered about the gift they bought you than about your wellbeing is not your friend.<br />
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<i>"29. You may lose some friends."</i><br />
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29. You'll have more time to spend with your friends. You may gain some friends, reconnect with some old ones.<br />
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<i>"30. Some of your family may not understand why you are getting divorced and that can be very challenging to deal with on top of dealing with divorce itself."</i><br />
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30. If your family are unsympathetic, divorce them too.<br />
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<i>"31. There will be a bit of pain when you refer to him as "Daddy" to your kids, but that's his name and how he's addressed, so you must deal."</i><br />
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31. Use whatever term you're comfortable with. Your kids will adapt.<br />
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<i>"32. You are going to want to confide in your ex because you are so used to doing so, but you have to learn how to stop doing that."</i><br />
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32. You're going to want to spend more time with friends. That'll be nice.<br />
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<i>"33. It may take a long time for you to be "friends" -- whatever that means. It may never happen."</i><br />
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33. You can stay friends. You don't have to.<br />
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<i>"34. There will be a time when your kids will wonder how the two of you were ever together in the first place. They may never even remember a time when you were together."</i><br />
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34. Your kids will grow up. You will wonder if they were ever small. You will be glad you didn't raise them in a house full of arguments.<br />
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<i>"35. You remember what it was like to fall in love with the man you married and you truly wonder how in the world did it all fall apart."</i><br />
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35. You might wonder how you hung in there so longer.<br />
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<i>"36. The above makes you terrified to ever get married again."</i><br />
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36. Next time you get into a serious relationship you'll probably do things differently.<br />
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Yesterday for International Day of the Girl I took part in a mentoring session on the London Eye with some teenage girls from Tower Hamlets. This was being organised by the Women of the World/WOW team at the South Bank Centre (in case you thought I had just hijacked the London Eye). And here's a lovely photo of the rainbow that showed up halfway through to remind us about the importance of gay rights or that God sometimes needs to drown people.<br />
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One of the conversations I had shocked me to the core. A thirteen year old girl told me that when she grows up she wants to be a physicist. Awesome, right? Then she asked me about GCSE choices. I said "do all the sciences". She explained that her school only lets a few students do all three sciences, and she doubted they'd pick her. So I suggested writing to her head teacher, talking to her science teachers, generally making a fuss, etc. At this point her teacher who was monitoring the mentoring stepped in and advised her to "pick which two sciences she liked best". The girl said physics and biology. The teacher advised dropping chemistry.<br />
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I jumped back in to the conversation and said if you want to be a physicist you need to do chemistry GCSE too. The girl said she wanted to do chemistry, but it was the science she found the hardest so they wouldn't let her do it.<br />
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Then I asked both of them, the girl and the teacher, what other GCSEs she would do. The teacher replied "everyone does English, everyone does Maths and everyone does R.E."!<br />
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A thirteen year old girl from a deprived inner city area who dreams of being a scientist is being forced to study religion instead of chemistry?<br />
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I am going to turn green and smash things.<br />
<br />Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-59986282045616875242013-05-01T15:27:00.000+01:002013-05-01T15:27:00.527+01:00Angela Epstein again. Line-by-lineI think Angela Epstein just gets up in the morning and thinks "what can I do to set women's rights back a decade by lunchtime?". Or maybe she thinks "what would really piss Kate Smurthwaite off?". Well her latest effort "<a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2314365/Why-wifes-duty-make-men-fancy-her.html#ixzz2Rg4HcjH4">Why it's every wife's duty to make other men fancy her</a>"is a spectacular success on both fronts? Here's how:<br />
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<i>"Standing in front of the bedroom mirror, I give my reflection one last appreciative glance. I’ve got a night out with some female colleagues at a swanky new bar, and I’m determined to look my very best."</i><br />
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Determined? In spite of all the odds stacked against me? Determined to battle every obstacle like the Indiana Jones of the Boots cosmetic section. Well good for you. I usually do my make-up on the bus to make time for an extra glass of prosecco, but you have it your way.<br />
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<i>"Arrogant as it may sound, I’m happy with what I see: freshly blow-dried hair, carefully applied lipstick, a pair of leg-stretching killer heels and a dress that manages to be both sexy and elegant."</i><br />
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Both sexy AND elegant? Stop press! Well lets hope there's no human rights abuses going on in Syria today cos we are not going to have time to write about them!<br />
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<i>"All that’s needed is a final spritz of perfume — just enough to entice, not too much to overpower — and I grab my clutch and keys and head for the door."</i><br />
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She's like Carrie Bradshaw isn't she? I keep my keys already in my rucksack. The last thing I do before I leave the house is have a piss.<br />
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<i>"Tonight, I want to attract a man. Not because I’m some predatory divorcee out to bag a scalp, nor because I’m a mistress-in-waiting looking for a little extra-curricular activity."</i><br />
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Sorry - is there some law against divorced women dating? Most divorced women I know like going to the cinema and a little light S&M, I don't know any who eat their date and put his head in a bag.<br />
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<i>"No, I am a happily married woman, with no interest in any man other than my lovely husband of 20 years, Martin, the father of our four children."</i><br />
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Phew! For a minute there I thought it was my job to hate you, but no, you're sticking to the official rules of the patriarchy. And really? No interest in any other man? You should watch more Ryan Gosling movies.<br />
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<i>"But that doesn’t stop me from making sure that whenever I’m 'on show', be it at a social event with Martin, a work engagement or — in the case of tonight — out with a few girlfriends, I dress in a way that will attract male attention."</i><br />
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When you're "on show"? What is this? Crufts?<br />
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<i>"A recipe for trouble? I don’t think so. It’s critical for a married woman, however happy she is, to make herself desirable to other men."</i><br />
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Other men who you have no interest in? Well since you have so much free time, why not apply for a job you don't want or enter a competition you don't want to win?<br />
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<i>"And before all those sour-faced, school-run mums with their hands up a chicken or their elbows in a twin tub start hurling their curlers at me, let me explain."</i><br />
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Yeah I hate women who cook or do laundry for their kids, don't you? And what do you think those curlers are for? They're to make your hair look curly. Presumably so random men will fancy you.<br />
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<i>"Some women dress to impress other women — so they’ll pass the brutal, look-you-up-and-down appraisal routine practised by all judgemental ladies."</i><br />
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Yes judgemental people are awfully judgemental aren't they? You might want to get new friends, cos my mates don't give a hoot if I show up for a party in my pyjamas.*<br />
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<i>"But I’m not interested in what other women think. Men are the barometer by which my attractiveness to my husband can be measured, ensuring I never take his interest in me for granted."</i><br />
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So you value men's opinions but not women's? You are SO writing for the right paper.<br />
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<i>"It’s easy, after years of marriage, to assume your husband will fancy you no matter how you look. And at the end of a busy day, with four children to take care of, it can take a lot of effort to — well — make an effort."</i><br />
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Yes raising four children must be very hard work. I suggest afterwards put your feet up and have some wine. Stop beating yourself up. Perhaps your husband could try being grateful for all the work you do and supportive?<br />
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<i>"Bad habits set in... not bothering with make-up when you both go to the cinema (who’s going to notice your sallow complexion in the dark?)... ditching your contact lenses for your pebble-thick glasses if it’s just a quick supper at the local gastropub..."</i><br />
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How are these bad habits? Being ugly is not "bad". And being ugly in the dark definitely isn't bad.<br />
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<i>"I see married women all the time in their ugly shoes or with their badly concealed baby weight, tagging alongside an uninterested spouse."</i><br />
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What would be the point of dressing up fancy for someone who isn't interested? And presumably he's in hot pants, right?<br />
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<i>"These women are, I’m afraid, inviting their man to stray."</i><br />
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Anything that doesn't start "darling I've heard about this great swingers party...", isn't an invitation to "stray".<br />
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<i>"For, reprehensible as it is for any man to cheat, a woman who no longer values her own sexiness is compounding any potential weakness on her husband’s part."</i><br />
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How can you value your own sexiness? You're a woman so you consider your own opinion invalid!<br />
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<i>"The way to keep him interested is to make him insecure — show him that other men are interested in you, so he’d better value what he’s got."</i><br />
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Ah yes, the key to all brilliant marriages: insecurity. Here are some other top tips: why not paint spots and wrinkles on him with make-up while he sleeps and start a rumour on Facebook that he's a sex pest. Who's he going to leave you for when all the other chicks in town think he's a pervert with bad skin?<br />
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<i>"I realise that mine isn’t a popular view. The other evening, I went for a drink with a female work friend. I was in tight-fitting jeans, full make-up and high heels; her notion of dressing up was to take off her apron."</i><br />
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What was she wearing under the apron? Lingerie? Maybe she doesn't care what you think. MAybe you were being judgemental. Maybe she's having a tough, stressful time and wanted a drink with a sympathetic friend. Oooops. And we all know you HAVE to wear high heels Angela because of <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1390592/Cheryl-Cole-Miley-Cyrus-Helen-Mirren-suffer-curse-cankles.html">your awful cankles</a>. Also what was achieved here? Even if all the men in the bar were queuing up to offer you a drink and their business card, you would have to have gone home and told your husband about it to deliberately try and make him jealous. Making you weird.<br />
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<i>"I explained my theory, only for her to snarl: 'If my husband’s seen me give birth, he can cope with me in an old top and jeans.'"</i><br />
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Wow, why do these smart people hang out with you? And is "snarl" just tabloid speak for "said while being ugly". And do your friends know you talk about them like this?<br />
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<i>"But that’s precisely the point. Your spouse remembers only too well watching his beautiful bride transformed into an enormous, foul-mouthed harpy on the delivery table."</i><br />
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Hopefully he remembers the magical day he became a parent and the brave woman who went through all that pain. Maybe you date different guys to me.<br />
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<i>"He knows how you look in the morning with last night’s make-up landsliding down your face and hair matted like the bottom of a cat basket."</i><br />
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Of course he looks great in the morning with a hangover and his make-up everywhere! (Or doesn't he bother wearing make-up when you go out? Uh oh, license to stray alert!!)<br />
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<i>"If that’s all you ever show him, it’s simply inevitable that he’ll take you for granted."</i><br />
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You have quite a dim view of women. And quite a weird life if you are only ever hungover or in labour.<br />
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<i>"Sure, he may love you — but when you stop showing him your desirable side, his attraction to you will become as tired and routine as the weekend shop."</i><br />
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Love is, of course, not enough. He needs to be horny all the time. And what about him? What alluring ensemble has he plumped for? Jeans and a faded polo shirt again? Ooops. It's like he's begging you to shag every guy you meet.<br />
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<i>"That’s why you have to remind him that other men find you sexy — otherwise you dent his delicate male ego by suggesting he’s not worth scrubbing up for."</i><br />
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So you scrub up for other men to remind him that you're willing to scrub up for him? No doubt he understands your message loud and clear!<br />
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<i>"Remember, if he married you, he must have fancied you (once)."</i><br />
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Maybe he could help, maybe over breakfast he could occasionally mutter "you used to be quite attractive"... You could return the favour by peering up for your Cheerios and whispering "I used to want to have sex with you".<br />
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<i>"I’m a hard-working, multi-tasking, mother-of-four battling encroaching age and fatigue."</i><br />
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Guess who is eventually going to win in the gripping battle between you and age? Yup, not you. And wouldn't it be more useful to put your top battling skills into battling for better childcare provision and more support for working parents? Then when you make some progress you can treat yourself to a spa day...<br />
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<i>"I would describe my looks — without some clever M&S upholstery and a load of cosmetics — as utterly ordinary."</i><br />
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Oh I see, so sorry, this article wasn't intended for me at all - I'm gorgeous.<br />
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<i>"But that just makes me work even harder."</i><br />
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If you want to "work" on improving your relationship - spend time together, do something you enjoy. Don't act like it's your wifely duty to pile on make-up for every trip to B&Q.<br />
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<i>"My husband is, at best, bemused by my theory. The other night, as I was wiggling up and down the bedroom in a clingy cream frock and fretting over which heels to team it with before we headed out to a charity do together, he commented: 'Does it really matter? Who really cares, apart from me?'"</i><br />
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And you value men's opinions, not women's right? So you listened to him.<br />
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<i>"Ah, but at the function, when one of the male organisers told me I looked 'rather hot', he bristled and threw a proprietorial arm around my shoulder. Hurrah! Result!"</i><br />
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This is more important to you than the fact that, by your own admission, he loves you? Maybe he just thought the guy was being creepy and was trying to help you shake him off.<br />
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<i>"Working hard so other men notice you triggers a Neanderthal response in your man." </i><br />
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Ah - science! Could you please refer me to the journal and article in which this research was published for peer review?<br />
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<i>"It takes him back to those bygone days when males, high on pheromones, would prowl round for potential mates."</i><br />
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Are you talking about the 80s?<br />
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<i>"Nothing is more guaranteed to drag him away from checking football scores at a party and place him firmly back by your side than the appreciative glance of a lusty competitor."</i><br />
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Sorry - I thought you wanted to stop him sleeping with other women? Now you want to stop him finding out the football scores?<br />
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<i>"And the greater the status of the man who notices you, the greater the impact on your other half. It will reinforce his pride in the fact that you are his."</i><br />
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And remember the higher the status of the guy who fancies you - the more cows he's likely to offer as a dowry. Oooops - wrong century!<br />
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<i>"It works the other way, too. Nothing reignites my interest in my husband more than the flutter of another woman’s eyelashes in his direction."</i><br />
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Very grown up - I don't want him unless somebody else does. Have you considered therapy?<br />
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<i>"I buy him beautiful clothes for his birthday, even though they might court the sort of female attention that I know raises my hackles. It’s all part of keeping the spark alive."</i><br />
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Is there anything you and your partner like about each other that isn't physical? What a weird relationship. You dress him up, encourage other women to oogle him, then this angers you and you want him. Really? And if so could you just role play this at home?<br />
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<i>"Does it get me into trouble? Occasionally, yes. There will always be men for whom a reasonably-presented woman will seem fair game."</i><br />
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So someone fancies you and you're not interested and this constitutes "getting into trouble?" or do they refuse to take no for an answer? In which case we're talking about "sexual assault" which is not your fault.<br />
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<i>"This is why turning heads has to be done with a restrained hand. Men are simplistic about smoke signals."</i><br />
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Most men don't understand smoke signals at all. But they're not bad with English I've found. And how is looking "your very best" using a restrained hand? Surely you should go for "looking your second best".<br />
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<i>"If you’re heavy handed with the hair-flicking, pouting and skirt-hitching they automatically assume this is semaphore for 'there’s a Travelodge around the corner'."</i><br />
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Most men also don't understand semaphore. Nor why you would want to use it to alert them about local landmarks. What is it with the smoke signals and the semaphore? Or maybe you mentioned somewhere else that your social circle is predominantly Native Americans and air traffic controllers.<br />
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<i>"When I sense there is any danger of that, I can’t get back to my lovely man fast enough."</i><br />
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I thought you were only interested in him when other women were pawing at him?<br />
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<i>"Ultimately, I still fancy my husband and want to do everything I can to ensure he still fancies me too."</i><br />
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So do that. But don't go telling the rest of us what to do like it's a "duty", and blaming us for infidelity and relationship breakdown. If we needed any evidence that dressing up fancy doesn't magically make your relationship last look at all the glamorous celebs getting divorced every year, while frumpy old Mr and Mrs Baggins on your road are probably celebrating their golden wedding anniversary. If there's one thing we know about great relationships it's this: they're not built on superficial attraction and petty jealousy.<br />
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<i>"But even if he put a ring on my finger, it doesn’t hurt to keep him on his toes too."</i><br />
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Yes it does - deliberately making people insecure is a crappy way to behave. By all means dress up when you want to, flirt if you enjoy it, because you're a human being and you've every right to go out on the town and enjoy yourself. But don't go pretending you're doing it for anyone's benefit but your own.<br />
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*That's "turn up to a party" (at someone's house, or a bar) "wearing my pyjamas". There is no party in my pyjamas. Sorry for the confusion.Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-73098545864599482902013-04-25T19:28:00.000+01:002013-04-25T19:28:42.508+01:00Anna Soubry: Feminist Icon. Line-by-line.Arggh!! Sometimes I think the Tories have an evil masterplan to disenfranchise women. Slashing benefits for carers and single parents, destroying public sector jobs, etc, etc. Then I realise their plan goes even further than that. They're actively trying to break down the credibility of women in the public eye by appointing the most stupid ones they can find to the highest offices they can spare. <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/politics/2013/apr/23/david-cameron-girly-job-health">Witness Anna Soubry</a>. Weep.<br />
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<i>"I've noticed that every public health minister has been a woman"</i><br />
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Great observation. Have you noticed anything else? Like your government auctioning off our healthcare service to the highest bidder? Mega corporations force-feeding junk food to children? An obesity crisis?<br />
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<i>"and it's been seen as the soft, girly option."</i><br />
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I'm sure some people out there think jobs done by women are easy. That's probably because they (a) don't do those jobs and (b) are misogynist tossers. Don't let them influence your use of language here.<br />
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<i>"It's bloody well not, it's one of the most important jobs."</i><br />
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Indeed it is, so you might want to think about doing it well.<br />
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<i>"To be quite frank, when the PM said to me: 'I want you to do public health,' I thought: 'Oh boss, I respect you so much, but I'm the only woman here and I get public health – I hope there's no connection there.'"</i><br />
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You were the only woman at the meeting and you suspected the person who called the meeting might be behaving in a sexist way? No shit sherlock. Amazed he didn't pat you on the bum and ask for two sugars.<br />
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<i>"Maybe I can make people realise that this is not a soft bloody girly option, it is a big serious job."</i><br />
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Girly does not mean easy.<br />
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<i>"I'm a huge fan of our prime minister … but I did sit there in the cabinet room and think: 'Boss, you do know what you've just done? You've given public health to the girl again"</i><br />
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Who is this "girl"? I want my government run by sensible adults though frankly I can think of some toddlers who could do better than this lot.<br />
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<i>"except I'm not a girl, I'm a tough old bird.'"</i><br />
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I'm a tough old bird who loves to use sexist language to describe myself. What is wrong with "woman"? I never hear David Cameron describe himself as a "boy" or a "tough old cock".<br />
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<i>"I came into politics to fight lefties …"</i><br />
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Were you drunk when you gave this speech? You came into politics to "fight lefties"? Not to make people's lives better or to serve the nation...? No, fighting them goddarn rootin tootin leftie scum. And which ones? Us lefties are constantly falling out over stuff, when we're not too busy growing organic veg and being gay.<br />
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<i>"That's where political fighting goes. The Tory party must learn from its own history that when we fight each other, you can guarantee to lose."</i><br />
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And also win. Confucianism 1.0.<br />
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If you want to do something useful Anna - how about signing up to the<a href="http://www.leaveourkidsalone.org/index.php"> Leave Our Kids Alone </a>campaign? I think it's brilliant. And it would definitely be a positive for public health.<br />
Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-38405412259691741422013-02-16T23:12:00.002+00:002013-02-16T23:12:54.420+00:00Me on Channel Five News<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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In case you missed it: me on channel five news debating page three. Check out Neil Wallis's patronising back pat at the end of the clip! Eww. ***takes Brillo pad into shower***<br />
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I seem to be their guest of the moment lately, here's me from a few weeks back discussing the Delhi Rape case with the much more sensible Sunny Hundal:<br />
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<br />Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-84231848156011633102013-01-29T00:17:00.000+00:002013-01-29T00:31:49.554+00:00Mehdi Hasan makes me really angry.Well, correction, the people who<a href="http://www.newstatesman.com/religion/2012/12/god-best-answer-why-there-something-rather-nothing"> allow and probably even pay for him to share his transparently stupid views in public make me angry</a>. So here's the line-by-line, if I can get through it without breaking something...<br />
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<i>"“You believe that Muhammad went to heaven on a winged horse?” That was the question posed to me by none other than Richard Dawkins a few weeks ago, in front of a 400-strong audience at the Oxford Union. I was supposed to be interviewing him for al-Jazeera but the world’s best-known atheist decided to turn the tables on me."</i><br />
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Seems like a reasonable question. I mean we need to know if we're being interviewed by someone rational or not don't we. Especially since you were no doubt about to ask him some questions about atheism.<br />
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<i>"So what did I do? I confessed. Yes, I believe in prophets and miracles." </i><br />
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We'll get to the prophets and miracles later. Lets just rewind here - the winged horse? In order to believe in the existence of a winged horse you'd have to throw out everything we know about zoology and evolution. I'm pretty sure the laws of aerodynamics are getting a thrashing too. It's ridiculous and ludicrous. So what a brilliant question from Dawkins - exposing you as completely irrational. I guess you felt pretty stupid, hence why you're still going on about it.<br />
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<i>"Oh, and I believe in God, too. Shame on me, eh? Faith, in the disdainful eyes of the atheist, is irredeemably irrational; to have faith, as Dawkins put it to me, is to have “belief in something without evidence”."</i><br />
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Another brilliant point from Dawkins. Wonder if <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xsj1UWol7l8">anyone else totally brilliant has ever said that</a>?<br />
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<i>"This, however, is sheer nonsense. Are we seriously expected to believe that the likes of Descartes, Kierkegaard, Hegel, Rousseau, Leibniz and Locke were all unthinking or irrational idiots?"</i><br />
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Yes and Aristotle and Plato supported slavery and considered it "natural". Great thinkers can be wrong. Otherwise the first time someone showed up with an IQ over 120 they'd have got everything right and there'd be no more debate about anything. And in defence of all these people (1) they lived a long time ago before science had reached the modern era, (2) many people nod along with religion because it helps them in their careers, etc and (3) none of them ever EVER said they believed in the existence of a flying horse.<br />
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<i>"In trying to disparage “faith”, Dawkins and his allies constantly confuse “evidence” with “proof”; those of us who believe in God do so without proof but not without evidence. As the Oxford theologian (and biophysicist) Alister McGrath has observed: “Our beliefs may be shown to be justifiable, without thereby demonstrating that they are proven.”"</i><br />
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Proof and evidence are not the same, they're highly related concepts though. Proof is enough evidence to draw a conclusion beyond reasonable doubt. And if you have any evidence at all on the flying horses issue, call me, I think New Scientist would be really interested in an exposé. I'm pretty sure that one is neither proven nor justifiable. Footnote: neither Dawkins, nor me, nor anyone needs to go around "disparaging" faith so long as you keep telling people about the flying horse. Really. We'll just get some popcorn and watch while you do the job for us.<br />
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<i>"The science bit"</i><br />
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Does this not feel like a shampoo advert? Now here comes the "science"...<br />
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<i>"Those atheists who harangue us theists for our supposed lack of evidence should consider three things. First, it may be a tired cliché but it is nonetheless correct: absence of evidence is not evidence of absence. I can’t prove God but you can’t disprove him. The only non-faith-based position is that of the agnostic."</i><br />
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The only reason that it appears you can't disprove God is because the definition of God is so vague and constantly being changed by religious folk! If we take the approach of nailing down God (pun intended lol) it's easy to disprove Him/Her. So (1) if we can agree that "God" means a being who knows and cares about human life and has the power to change things on earth. Then look at the fact that child rapists continue to exist, that good people often suffer painful illnesses, that famine and drought affect whole communities indiscriminately. This proves that He/She either doesn't care or can't intervene. So that God doesn't exist. And (2) if we can agree that this deity rides around on a winged horse, theres the whole of zoology and evolution and all the rest sat there disproving His/Her existence.<br />
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<i>"Second, there are plenty of things that cannot be scientifically tested or proven but that we believe to be true, reasonable, obvious even. Which of these four pretty uncontroversial statements is scientifically testable? 1) Your spouse loves you. 2) The Taj Mahal is beautiful. 3) There are conscious minds other than your own. 4) The Nazis were evil."</i><br />
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On the contrary evidence can be presented for all of these things.<br />
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1, 2 and 4 are just about definitions. We can't prove "love" unless we define "love". We could define it based on brain chemistry and then test for the relevant chemicals. We could define it more prosaically on (for example) willingness to perform an unpleasant task on someone else's behalf. Either way as long as we agree on a definition, we can test it. We can define beauty based on the percentage of viewers who consider a sight pleasing. Or we can use definitions based on complexity and symmetry. We could even again look for the chemical balance of a typical brain when it reports identifying "beauty" and then test for it. Evil is fairly neatly defined as deliberate abuse of human rights. We can demonstrate that that occurred.<br />
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3 is a strange one. Great leaps and bounds in progress are being made around consciousness. We may soon have a much neater scientific understanding of it and be able to thus define and test for it. But there's plenty of evidence for others being conscious by some definition or another. In fact you posing the question suggests to me that you're conscious, although your believing in flying horses suggests only just.<br />
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<i>"This isn’t just about metaphysics, aesthetics or ethics: science itself is permeated with unproven (and unprovable) theories."</i><br />
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None of them are about the existence of flying horses. And nothing is unprovable, things may be unprovable with current methods and equipment, but science moves on. We might once have wondered how anyone would ever prove the earth wasn't flat, but now with space travel, everyone accepts it.<br />
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<i>"Take the so-called multiverse hypothesis. “It says there are billions and billions of universes, all of which have different settings of their fundamental constants,” Dawkins explained to a member of the audience in Oxford. “A tiny minority of those billions and billions of universes have their constants set in such a way as to give rise to a universe that lasts long enough to give rise to galaxies, stars, planets, chemistry and hence the process of evolution...”"</i><br />
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Yeah it's a theory. I don't think Dawkins is suggesting it's a fact.<br />
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<i>"Hmm. A nice idea, but where’s your evidence, Richard? How do we “prove” that these “billions and billions” of universes exist? “The multiverse theory may be dressed up in scientific language,” the cosmologist Paul Davies has admitted, “but in essence it requires the same leap of faith [as God].”"</i><br />
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No, it's a theory. One day we may discover wormholes and travel to other universes. Maybe in one of those universes there are flying horses. Cos there sure aren't in this one!<br />
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<i>"Third, there are plenty of good, rational and evidence-based arguments for God. You don’t have to agree with them, but it is intellectually dishonest to claim that they, too, like God, don’t exist."</i><br />
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No there aren't. There aren't any. If there were scientists would evaluate them.<br />
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<i>"Take the Kalam cosmological argument – first outlined by the medieval Muslim theologian al-Ghazali, and nowadays formulated by the Christian philosopher William Lane Craig as follows:</i><br />
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<i>1) Whatever begins to exist has a cause.</i><br />
<i>2) The universe began to exist.</i><br />
<i>3) Therefore, the universe has a cause.</i><br />
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<i>Whether you agree with it or not, it is a valid deductive argument, a genuine appeal to reason and logic."</i><br />
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But it's a total nonsense. Firstly because the term "begin" implies there was a time when it was not here, and then a time when it was here. And that only makes sense if we think of time as something that already existed, before the universe. But time, without a universe, is meaningless. Time, and thus beginnings, only starts to exist as the universe comes into being. Secondly this argument builds a huge huge HUGE paradox. The universe exists so something must have created it. Lets call that thing God. So if God exists something must have created God. Lets call that thing super-God. So if super-God exists... Incidentally this is a fun game to play if you're having trouble sleeping or don't like the other people at a dinner party.<br />
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<i>"Or how about the argument that says the universe, in Davies’s words, “is in several respects ‘fine-tuned’ for life”? Remember, the late Antony Flew, the atheist philosopher who embraced God in 2004, did so after coming to the conclusion that “there had to be an intelligence behind the integrated complexity of the physical universe”. To pretend that Flew, of all people, arrived at such a belief blindly, without thinking it through, “without evidence”, is plain silly."</i><br />
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If the universe wasn't fine-tuned for life, we wouldn't be here. That's like the person who wins the lottery saying "God made me win", forgetting that many of the millions of people who didn't win also prayed to a God. In fact the fine-tuning of the universe is one of the reasons behind the multi-verse theory. Currently no scientists are debating fine-tuning in the context of the flying horse theory. And isn't it rather weird to imagine God spent ages fine-tuning universal physical constants to create galaxies, stars, planets, moons, black holes, supernova and life on earth and then looked round afterwards and went "oh, I'll also make a flying horse".<br />
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<i>"For Muslims such as me, faith (iman) and reason (aql) go hand in hand."</i><br />
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Yes and then faith blindly throws reason out of the window.<br />
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<i>"The Quran stresses the importance of using science, logic and reason as tools for discovering God."</i><br />
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Yes - not as tools for finding out if God exists or not, for "discovering God. Which is a bit like using crayons to make an omelette. Also in 4:34 the Quran says it's ok to beat your wife.<br />
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<i>"“Will you not then use your reason?” it asks, again and again. But hasn’t the theory of evolution undermined Islam? asks the atheist. A few years ago, Dawkins accused British Muslims of “importing creationism into this country”. He has a point. These days, the vast majority of my coreligionists see Darwin as the devil."</i><br />
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Of course they do. Darwin's work showed for the first time in history that there categorically wasn't and never had been any such thing as a flying horse! What fools they must have felt. Why the next thing someone will tell them the moon isn't really a crescent shape. Ooops.<br />
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<i>"Yet this is a new phenomenon. Many of Islamic history’s greatest scholars and thinkers were evolutionists; the 19th-century scientist John William Draper, a contemporary of Darwin, referred to the latter’s views as “the Muhammadan theory of evolution”."</i><br />
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Yes and I've heard people refer to you as a journalist, yet here we are Mehdi, churning through all this nonsense.<br />
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<i>"As I pointed out on these pages back in January, “one of the earliest theories of natural selection was developed by the 9th-century Iraqi zoologist (and Islamic theologian) al-Jahiz, 1,000 years before Charles Darwin”. And almost 500 years before the publication of On the Origin of Species, the acclaimed Arab philosopher Ibn Khaldun wrote his Muqaddimah, in which he documented how “the animal world then widens, its species become numerous . . . the higher stage of man is reached from the world of the monkeys...”"</i><br />
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Impressive. Now lets play a fun game called "whose religion stopped those ideas becoming widespread, being tested and then used as a basis for further research?" You go first.<br />
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<i>"Stages of man</i><br />
<i>There is, indeed, nothing in the Quran that prevents Muslims from embracing evolution."</i><br />
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No, nothing at all. Nothing except WHHHRFFF WHHHRFFF what's that, nothing in the Quran that WHHHRFFFF WHHHHRFFF prevents Muslims from WHHHRFFF WHHHRFFF oh I'm so sorry I can't hear what you're saying - there's something landing behind me over here WHHHRFFF WHHHRFFF well fuck me it's that flying horse of yours Mehdi. Now, what was your point about the compatibility of the Quran and evolution again?<br />
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<i>"In his recent book Reading the Quran, the Muslim commentator Ziauddin Sardar notes how creation is presented “as a dynamic, on - going phenomenon that is constantly evolving and changing”. Sardar points to verse 14 of chapter 71, where “we are specifically asked to reflect on the fact that ‘He has created you stage by stage’ ”."</i><br />
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Evolution definitely doesn't show that human beings were created in stages by a deity. Also you might want to be honest here and admit that the Quran also claims the old 6 day Extreme Makeover: Universe Edition version of creation.<br />
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<i>"Yet the theory of evolution, whether Muslims accept it or not, doesn’t explain the origins of the universe, the laws of science or our objective moral values."</i><br />
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No, it explains the evolution of humans and other animals, plants, etc. Hence why it's called the theory of evolution. Other scientific theories explain those other things. And what objective moral values? The ones, once widely believed and today still practiced in much of the world about how it's ok to beat your wife? See ... the Quran (4:34).<br />
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<i>"In short, most of us who believe in God do so not because we are irrational, incurious or immature but because He is the best answer to the question posed by Leibniz more than 300 years ago: “Why is there something rather than nothing?”</i><br />
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So here we are. The New Statesman is now publishing an article espousing a 1400-year-old answer to a 300-year old question? And that answer is: something exists, so something else (of unknown origins) must have made it, I imagine He probably rides about on a flying horse. I weep.Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-13935048567520677382013-01-24T00:56:00.000+00:002013-01-24T00:56:08.766+00:00The Daily Fail and Faking ItOh dear, according to the <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2266282/Why-men-LOVE-orgasm-face-Sexpert-Tracey-Cox-explains-know-faking-gives-tips-perfect-yours.html">Daily Mail</a> men (remember you're all straight) like to look at women's faces during sex, not because it's wonderfully romantic or increases communication and intimacy but because they're trying to work out whether we're faking our orgasms or not.<br />
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Let me help you all out here. Here's how you can tell if your (female) partner is faking her orgasms: she always has one. Even when it's just a quickie or she's had a bad day or is feeling a bit unwell. The best way to tell she's not faking is if sometimes she says "ooh, not quite, here, try this".<br />
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Seriously, good sex = communication. If you don't have the guts to talk about it, should you really be doing it at all?<br />
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You are welcome.<br />
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Eww, this is creepy. <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2012/dec/16/tolerance-is-not-enough">The Guardian has published a piece by Timothy Radcliffe</a> sinisterly trying to say, without giving any real reasons, that religious opposition to gay marriage is not homophobia. It's a cavalcade of nonsense. Here's why, line-by-line:<br />
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<i>"It is heartening to see the wave of support for gay marriages."</i><br />
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Yeah, shame the church is still a hotbed of bigotry.<br />
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<i>"It shows a society that aspires to an open tolerance of all sorts of people, a desire for us to live together in mutual acceptance." </i><br />
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Tolerance and acceptance? I want to live in a society that does not tolerate or accept bigotry of any kind. Including that kind that comes, as it so often does, from organised religion.<br />
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<i>"It seems obviously fair and right that if straight people can get married, why not gay people?"</i><br />
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Yes it does. Because it is. The article should end here.<br />
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<i>"But we must resist the easy seduction of the obvious."</i><br />
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We must also not forget Occam's razor. If it looks like bigotry and it smells like bigotry... it's probably bigotry.<br />
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<i>"It once seemed obvious that the sun revolved around the Earth..."</i><br />
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Not wholly true, but it was science that showed the earth revolves the sun, not religion.<br />
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<i>"...and that women were inferior to men."</i><br />
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This is still "obvious" to millions of people around the world, and almost always because religion teaches that it's true and that it should be perpetuated by denying women their basic rights.<br />
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<i>"Society only evolves when we have the mental liberty to challenge what seems to be common sense."</i><br />
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Yes we should challenge things that seem to be common sense, but we shouldn't reject them outright unless we find compelling evidence. Doh.<br />
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<i>"Many Christians oppose gay marriage not because we are homophobic..."</i><br />
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No - thinking gay people should have less rights than straight people IS homophobic.<br />
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<i>"...or reject the equal dignity of gay people..."</i><br />
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If people have equal dignity, they probably ought to have equal rights.<br />
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<i>"...but because "gay marriage" ultimately..."</i><br />
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Putting it in quotation marks is stupid and offensive. If gay people get married, that is, or would be, gay marriage.<br />
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<i>"...we believe, demeans gay people by forcing them to conform to the straight world."</i><br />
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No it doesn't, unless you plan to make gay marriage compulsory. It gives them the option of having what others have and also all the other options straight people have, live living together, dating, being single, having group sex, whatever. And marriage wouldn't be part of the "straight world" if we made it available to all. And there's no such thing as the "straight world", we live in the "real world".<br />
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<i>"Richard Sennett of the LSE argues in Together, the Rituals, Pleasures and Politics of Co-operation, that western society fears difference."</i><br />
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All human beings instinctively fear difference because we don't fully understand people who aren't like us. This is the root of intolerance, we need to overcome it. One of the main barriers to that is organised religion. Organised religion almost always teaches that anyone who doesn't live a certain way and believe a certain pile of nonsense is going to be punished for it, often violently and torturously.<br />
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<i>"Because of growing inequality and a fluid society in which people move rapidly from one job and place to another (if they can get a job at all), we do not learn the art of living with people who are unlike us."</i><br />
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Actually in the West we live in a more mixed culture than at any time in history.<br />
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<i>"We are highly tribalised."</i><br />
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No we used to be tribalised. When we lived in tribes. That's where the word comes from. Yes there are remnants of tribal living around still but in general we no longer live in tribes.<br />
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<i>"He asserts that "tribalism couples solidarity with others like yourself to aggression against those who are different"."</i><br />
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Not always true in some ways. Historically tribes would only have been "like-minded" because they were blood-related and because infants were communally raised by elder tribe members who passed on values. It's likely many people in tribes disagreed with tribe leaders or felt they were different to other members. But often they may have kept quiet because falling out with the rest of the tribe meant great personal risk. It's unlikely they knew how individuals in other tribes felt about issues, and in some cases tribes co-operated and in others they fought or competed.<br />
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<i>"The internet enables us to bond with like-minded people."</i><br />
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And yet here I am reading your twaddle Tim! But good - if I can reach out to others who also hate bigotry, I'd like to do that.<br />
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<i>"If we disagree, we can disengage in a second."</i><br />
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Which is much better than having a war isn't it? Would it be better to force people to live full time with people they don't actually get on with? Also I've never "disengaged" with someone online because of their sexual orientation. Nor would I.<br />
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<i>"Zygmunt Bauman argues that the mobility of modern society encourages "the impulse to withdraw from risk-ridden complexity into the shelter of uniformity"."</i><br />
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Well we certainly can use the internet to find others whose opinions we agree with if we want. And that's a brilliant thing for people who feel different to those around them and may be being bullied or having their needs and feelings ignored. This would include gay and trans people as well as, for example, those trapped in religious communities who do not believe supernatural nonsense.<br />
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<i>"Tolerance means, literally, to engage with other people who are different."</i><br />
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Engage with them by fighting to deny them the same rights as you? <br />
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<i>"It implies an attention to the particularity of the other person, a savouring of how he or she is unlike me, in their faith, their ethnicity, their sexual orientation."</i><br />
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Remind me to go round savouring how others are different to me in their ethnicity. Mmmm, a brown person... How the hell does this work? Or savouring their different sexual orientation. Mmmm, boy-on-boy action, tasty. Gay men and women don't want to be savoured by creepy old religious dudes, they want to be treated equally by everyone and by the law. And when it comes to your homophobic faith, excuse me if savouring it doesn't leave rather a bitter taste.<br />
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<i>"A society that flees difference and pretends we are all just the same may have outlawed intolerance in one form, and yet instituted it in other ways."</i><br />
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But we are all different - some people want to marry in their 20s, others in their 80s. Some want to marry more than once, some never at all. And some people want to marry someone the same sex as them. We're not pretending everyone is the same, we're insisting everyone should have the same rights. To describe legalising gay marriage as "instituting intolerance" is real double-speak.<br />
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<i>"It says, "we shall tolerate you as long as you pretend to be just like us"."</i><br />
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But gay people don't need to pretend to be "just like us". They are "just like us". In fact they are "some of us". Doh!<br />
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<i>"We put up with various religious faiths as long as they are confined to the private sphere, or reduced to decorative role."</i><br />
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Actually we go to enormous lengths to encourage religion. If churches paid tax none of the recent welfare cuts would be necessary at all. And we allow religion into our schools and public services, even into taxpayer-funded roles in our hospitals and armed forces. It's disgusting and it needs to stop now, especially since the church persists in pushing it's homophonic agenda in all of these places.<br />
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<i>"At Christmas, a tree, and a menorah for Hanukkah."</i><br />
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The tree is pagan by the way and has everything to do with culture and toss all to do with religion, as do the presents under it.<br />
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<i>"Religious conviction, if it impinges on the public sphere, is viewed with a mixture of fear and derision."</i><br />
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Well it does impinge on the public sphere. Twenty-six unelected all-male Church of England bishops sit in the House of Lords and influence the laws that affect the rest of us. And yes of course it meets fear and derision because we want our laws to be based on fairness and human rights, not outdated bigoted supernatural nonsense.<br />
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<i>"And so it is both true that modern Britain is a model of multiculturalism, and also that we drift around in a fog of mutual ignorance."</i><br />
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While cheese IS NOT chalk, we also note that cheese IS chalk. We're not a model of multiculturalism, we get it right sometimes, and we're not drifting around in a fog of ignorance, we get it wrong sometimes. Like for example right now some bigot is writing in The Guardian about how we shouldn't allow gay marriage. And as for "mutual ignorance", yes there are probably a small number of straight people in the UK who are to some extent ignorant about the gay community but I fail to see how there are gay people who are ignorant about straight people. That is the privilege of being the vast majority of the population.<br />
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<i>"Cardinal Basil Hume taught that God is present in every love, including the mutual love of gay people."</i><br />
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Well I thought I might be drifting around in a fog of ignorance about the gay community I'd definitely ask Cardinal Basil Hume for his opinion. That's definitely a better idea than asking someone who actually is gay. And thanks Basil, I'll bear that in mind while I fuck other atheists.<br />
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<i>"This is to be respected and cherished and protected, as it is by civil unions."</i><br />
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Respected so much that gay people aren't allowed to use the same words or legal documentation as straight people, nor hold their ceremonies in the same buildings. How is that "respect"? And why should anyone "cherish" having less rights?<br />
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<i>"But to open up marriage to gay people, however admirable the intention, is ultimately to deny "the dignity of difference" in the phrase of the chief rabbi, Jonathan Sachs."</i><br />
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Eww, don't quote Jonathan Sachs at me. I met him once. Horrible bigoted man. (And I think I may have said that!) And "the dignity of difference", really? The dignity of unequal rights? The dignity of "not quite the same"? The dignity of "don't use our special word for it"? With all due dignity - fuck off.<br />
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<i>"It is not discriminatory..."</i><br />
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Yes it is. Denying equal rights is discrimination.<br />
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<i>"...merely a recognition that marriage is an institution that is founded on a union that embraces sexual difference."</i><br />
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Marriage is an institution founded on male control over women. Historically men could marry several women and have concubines, etc too. Women had little or no say in the matter. Love was not really a factor in a lot of historical cases, it was much closer to slavery. The meaning of marriage has constantly evolved for the better. And anyway Christmas trees are FOUNDED on pagan worship, so why aren't you campaigning to bring that back?<br />
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<i>"It is not a denial of the equality of the love between two gay people, for all love is of infinite value."</i><br />
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If love is of infinite value then it must be worth more than the church's petty outdated ideas, no?<br />
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<i>"A society that fears difference and does not engage with it will ultimately fall into intolerance."</i><br />
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So if we allow gay marriage, this will lead to intolerance. So being tolerant will lead to intolerance. Have you read 1984 Tim?<br />
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<i>"Real conversation with people who are different is frightening: it changes how you view your own identity."</i><br />
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Yeah the last time I spoke to a gay person I totally shit myself. Not.<br />
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<i>"In his book on Dostoevsky, Rowan Williams quotes Mikhail Bakhtin: "Dialogue ... is not a means for revealing, for bringing to the surface the readymade character of a person; no, in dialogue a person not only shows himself outwardly, but he becomes for the first time that which he is – and we repeat, not only for others but for himself as well.""</i><br />
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Note how directly after he calls for conversation between people who are different he then quotes another straight white bloke's book about yet another straight white bloke. Not one woman, non-white person, gay or lesbian, transperson, etc has been quoted or even mentioned in this whole article. And you think the rest of us are scared of difference?!! I guess asking a gay person's opinion would be too frightening huh? But hey, I'd be scared of gay people too if I was a bigot.<br />
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<i>"An easygoing tolerance, rubbing along beside each other without much curiosity, is not enough."</i><br />
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Tolerance is a bloody good start. And equality in terms of marriage is a step on the road to equality. And if your level of curiosity about the gay community is so strong that you sought out the opinions of three straight white men: a Rabbi, a Cardinal and a former Archbishop? I'd hate to see how you do research on dogs, probably by asking cats, or newts. And again you seem to be implying that gay people for the most part just muddle along without interacting with straight people. But they don't, they can't, because straight people are bloody everywhere and run everything.<br />
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<i>"We need to recover a confidence in intelligent engagement with those who are unlike us, a profound mutual attention..."</i><br />
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So go on. Ask a gay person if they want to be "equal but different", if they think marriage is "founded on sexual difference", if they want less rights than you. Hint: they don't!<br />
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<i>"...otherwise we shall crush a life-giving pluralism." </i><br />
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Yes "pluralism", what a lovely word for "inequality". Remember the good old days when South Africa had "pluralism" for black people? No nor do I because apartheid was just discrimination!<br />
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<i>"It will not only be gay people who will suffer."</i><br />
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But lets be honest, when gay people have less rights, it is MOSTLY gay people who suffer.<br />
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<i>"We shall all be the poorer."</i><br />
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This whole article doesn't suggest one single way in which anyone shall be "the poorer" for living in a society that recognises gay marriage. The point seems to be that we should reject gay marriage because it might discourage some people from engaging with those who are different to them? On the contrary it will highlight how similar we all are, in that we are all human beings. Gay marriage will actually lead to more engagement, especially between gay people who love each other! Plus it will make it really obvious which churches (Unitarians, Quakers, etc) are open minded and enthusiastic about being a part of gay people's lives and which ones (CofE, Catholic) are going to continue to support bigotry.Cruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.com5