tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post4074834713181278387..comments2023-08-14T16:35:49.756+01:00Comments on Cruella-blog: It's So Liberating, Not Being A FeministCruellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-51951107173982931252010-08-23T14:53:38.950+01:002010-08-23T14:53:38.950+01:00Cruella, I fear you've paid insufficient atten...Cruella, I fear you've paid insufficient attention to your studies in Victorian etiquette. On getting divorced, a woman's name changes from, for example, Mrs Charles Windsor to Mrs Diana Spencer. Whereas if she's widowed she remains Mrs Charles Windsor. Once married, a woman is never again a Miss.<br /><br />All nonsense, of course, but internally consistent nonsense.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09044337194572000512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-20096543265399433402010-08-14T19:36:16.005+01:002010-08-14T19:36:16.005+01:00I have always thought that 'Miss' could ba...I have always thought that 'Miss' could basically be a 'for sale' sign on a women's forehead generated from 19 century courting practises. 'Ms' is an awkward sounding but very necessary title option to equal "Mr' - interestingly enough in a recent job interview I was asked if I would mind be called Mrs rather than Ms as it might send out confusing messages to the youth I would be teaching. I was surprised at how easily I gave up Ms but only because I know that I am a very modern Mrs who needs to feed her two kids by working. And...I'm subversive enough that I'll enlighten those kids regardless of my title.WTFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16843112616427352655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-41554742780904385122010-07-21T00:53:14.873+01:002010-07-21T00:53:14.873+01:00Hilarious. And so true. Hope your shows in Swede...Hilarious. And so true. Hope your shows in Sweden and Edinburgh kill.Loraine Despreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06744767063342722938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-14873097398799955552010-07-20T14:32:32.933+01:002010-07-20T14:32:32.933+01:00I don't think you can be quoting "too muc...I don't think you can be quoting "too much" of the article when you're doing satire -- isn't that protected as a particular form of free speech? <br /><br />Anyway, I read your post last night and was thinking again this morning how clearly her discomfort with "Ms." is tied to her discomfort with feminist ideas and/or women who identify as feminist. I'm also wondering if it isn't all tangled up with misogyny specifically toward older women. Her sense of grievence, as if someone is taking "Miss" away from her despite its continued prevelence on forms and in public to identify young women. Makes it seem less about the loss of the title but rather her defensiveness about the fact that people have stopped using it to speak about adult women. Which, in my opinion, is a healthy thing: it means we're more willing to treat single women as serious adults -- as just, well, WOMEN, rather than either debutants or spinsters.annajcookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17573723390785613915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-86101226460930207652010-07-19T18:59:35.688+01:002010-07-19T18:59:35.688+01:00Glad there was no picture as the image in my mind ...Glad there was no picture as the image in my mind is of a 1970s drag act called Dick Emery who you are probably too young to remember but must still exist on Youtube somewhere.<br /><br />I was once asked if "Ms" meant I was divorced.cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05082588392968542508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-65830625704374456722010-07-17T11:26:08.707+01:002010-07-17T11:26:08.707+01:00I think it's a matter of personal choice. Tec...I think it's a matter of personal choice. Technically I'm Mrs but I tend not to use any sort of title where it's not needed and just introduce myself with first name and surname.Jillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00104126307586066155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-12341879590623513402010-07-17T08:18:27.747+01:002010-07-17T08:18:27.747+01:00Thank you for this post. It brightened my morning....Thank you for this post. It brightened my morning. I have been a Ms since I was around 14/15 years old. I went to an all girls school, where most of the teachers used Ms. I was inspired by them and their reasoning.Proud Maisiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07559009415342685299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-88373814485336095412010-07-16T22:02:59.083+01:002010-07-16T22:02:59.083+01:00I LOVE this post. I would go in to discussing the ...I LOVE this post. I would go in to discussing the Ms/Miss issue in depth, but you have done it so beautifully - thank you. I hate it when people ask, 'Miss or Mrs', only to give you a "you're being awkward" look when you say 'Ms, actually'...Emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12285602902825804840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-42573449068346513982010-07-16T22:02:59.084+01:002010-07-16T22:02:59.084+01:00I'm afraid I disagree with both of you. I am a...I'm afraid I disagree with both of you. I am a feminist, and I use Miss. I choose Miss. I respect others decision to use Ms or Mrs, to take their husband's name or not. It's about choice. The author can choose to be called Miss and you can choose to be called Ms. Neither of you should be disparaging about the other and their decisions.JSlayerUKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07954027052327516474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-65623812802060541562010-07-16T21:39:48.368+01:002010-07-16T21:39:48.368+01:00Assuming you're in the UK (or US) V, no, just ...Assuming you're in the UK (or US) V, no, just start ticking Ms. And if it makes you feel sexier, great!Cruellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03446805038957924958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-22302642929424933282010-07-16T21:30:56.619+01:002010-07-16T21:30:56.619+01:00Related question: Do I have to go through any offi...Related question: Do I have to go through any official procedure to change my title to Ms, or just start ticking that box on forms? Anyone know? Anyway, great piece. On the whole 'impish smile' issue, equally shallow tho it is, I think Ms is sexier. Strong, mysterious and unknowable.Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07072672994520820206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8248707.post-87619423681851355272010-07-16T19:13:31.416+01:002010-07-16T19:13:31.416+01:00Oh Kate, I do so love your takedowns of 'news&...Oh Kate, I do so love your takedowns of 'news' articles.<br /><br />I've been a Ms since I discovered the word aged about twenty, and will remain Ms Anji Capes if and when my partner and I choose to marry. My marital status is nobody's business but my own (and obviously my partner's!).Leia Organahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05341131220110311912noreply@blogger.com